Flirting with a girl you’ve just met and wanting to take her home. Let’s talk about this situation in a night club because I think this is a really common one for a lot of guys. The reality is that not all women are going to want to go home. Not all women want to have sex that same night but you can definitely filter and get enough experience to recognize which kind of women will want to go home with you. That’s why a night club is a great place to get that experience, as it offers all kinds of women there for all different reasons.
Sometimes it is good to test the waters too. Most guys don’t realize that escalation is the name of the game. This doesn’t mean just physically but also in terms of getting her to invest more into the interaction. Guys don’t do this enough. When you start to talk to a woman, even in the first five minutes, you want to move her. You want to make a connection and be able to feel where things are headed.
Even if it’s a small move as simple as a mini isolation. A mini isolation is when you two are talking to each other maybe a foot or two away from her friend. It doesn’t have to be a big space but basically you’ve isolated her away from the group. You’ve kind of taken her out of the group and gotten her alone, without it being in a creepy way. This way still keeps the pressure off her, and keeps her feeling comfortable.
After that suggest going to the bar to buy her a drink. I know that a lot of people have told you that buying a girl a drink is a bad idea. It’s a bad idea if you think that buying her a drink is going to win her over but having that reason to go to the bar to get a drink is a way to move her away and make another move. It puts more distance between her and the group, and brings you two closer together. It also shows your interest in the fact that you are willing to buy her a drink.
This can be a great way to keep escalating that interaction. You can be certain that if you’re moving a woman and you’re touching a woman that you’re doing everything necessary to make it far more possible for you to take her home. Getting a woman to be comfortable, and enjoy being around you and to accept those small touches and little gestures like buying her a drink, is a step in the right direction.
One tip for the next time that you go out is to focus on moving her about three or four times and ultimately getting her isolated and away from her group. This might be something like starting with a mini isolation, then going to the bar, heading to the dance floor, and then finally getting to a quiet area of the club to get to know her more and build rapport. Getting that connection, and a little bit of privacy are important factors in getting to the next step. If you can get into the habit of moving women like this you will definitely build up your experience and you will definitely increase your chances of getting women back to your house.