The number one thing women find attractive is a man with confidence
Ways to build inner confidence and project it for her to see…
What are some of the ways that guys out there can improve their self-assurance and self-confidence?
I’m sure this is a topic many people are interested in.
There are two components to building your self-confidence sky high: the first is what we call inner game, and the second is what we call outer game.
Now when we look at inner game, we talk about a person’s belief system.
We talk about the way they talk to themselves. Essentially we talk about their self-belief and self-esteem. Thankfully, there’s a variety of different exercises that guys can do to really sky-rocket their self-confidence.
They can do hypnosis and NLP, where they essentially get someone to help facilitate putting them into a deepened state, and then use the power of visualization and suggestive words to try and impact a person’s limiting beliefs at a very core level. So I think this is something that can be really powerful. One of the challenges with such a method is that it does take someone else to administer it for you, and preferably it should be a trained professional – someone who knows their trade very well.
I think the second thing that guys can do to work on their inner game is the concept of sentence stems.
Sentence stems are where you basically start a sentence with a particular phrase, and then you set a timer on your clock for 5 minutes, and you just write off the top of your head answers to that particular initial sentence, or follow up stems to that particular sentence. So a great one for guys to try out to develop more self-belief and self-assuredness is “I like myself because…” and then set the timer and go.
Then just complete that sentence as many times as they can.
The goal is to be able to write for an entire 5 minutes without the pen stopping, and if that means they have to write the same thing a couple of times, then that’s ok. But this helps to shift their awareness and bring their attention towards some of the positive things that they have going on in their life.
In fact, stop reading and do it now! If you type faster than you write, do it in a word processor. Then come back and read the next section about building your self-confidence.
In terms of outer game, I think a really great starting point is conversation skills, and I would encourage guys to even just go down to the library, and look for books on how to improve conversation skills. Generic conversation books are actually, generally speaking, pretty good advice.
Another solution would be to have a look through this particular website at some of the great articles that are based around improving conversation skills. Now the reason I think this is a really good starting point, is when guys improve their conversation skills, everything else in their game, you know, just starts to fall into place.
Then they can actually start to focus on the other aspects of their game, such as their touch, or their escalation skills; and as a consequence of their improved conversation skills, they’ll be able to keep the interaction going which will buy them time to work on these other skills. Once guys begin to develop that deep sense of inner calm, or that inner confidence, as well as having outer confidence; then they become much more holistic in their approach, and are going to be vastly more successful. The most important thing to remember when you are building your self-confidence is to always challenge yourself to grow.
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