I know you’re feeling lost, lonely and filled with pain…
But I want to make sure you do the right things to make it stop today, instead of continuing forever…
The first mistake guys make is that they act desperate, needy, and display unattractive behavior. This shows weakness, and that they are not in control of their emotions. It’s communicating all the wrong things. It’s easy to do, and we’ve all been in a situation where we’re feeling the hurt of missing the girl that we loved. It’s cutting us deep inside and we want to try to call her and attract her back. But don’t. Women have evolved to seek strong men and run away from weak men. Your best bet as far as attracting her is concerned is to be strong and independent, and paradoxically perhaps to show her that you don’t need her.
You don’t need her.
It’s important that you say to yourself, “Hey, that’s a normal emotion, and with time it’s going to get better – but I need to stay in control.” Maybe use meditative techniques, or keep your mind active at work. Perhaps undertake some kind of self-development related exercises, or start working out more to help settle your mind and re-direct your focus into another area of your life, so that you can become stronger.
Don’t contact her.
As an extension of their needy attitude, guys often make the mistake of trying to contact her all the time and end up harassing her. They think that’s a way that they’re going to display to her how much they feel about her. My advice is, as much as you feel that emotion to want to engage her, take a step back and give her some time to miss you. Give her some time for herself for a little while. Set a date in your head for when you’re going to contact her, and stick by that decision no matter what.
The other thing is trying to argue with her and thinking that by disputing some trivial matters you’re having with her, you’re going to make her attracted and want to come back to you. If you’re feeling upset about the situation, once again it’s very important to be in control of your emotions and to try to calm yourself down as much as you can. Using arguments in a relationship to convince her to come back to you is frankly a terrible idea.
Get her to miss you.
One thing guys certainly don’t do enough of is trying to make her jealous. I don’t mean go and pick up another girl at the night club the day you broke up (that is, if you still want to get back together, otherwise – power to you). I mean doing other things to try and get her to miss you.
Deleter her from Facebook.
I think it’s very important that you disassociate yourself as much as you can in the initial stages of the breakup and just focus on yourself. That means deleting her off of Facebook and blocking her so that she doesn’t appear in your friend’s updates. Delete her phone number, stop going to parties where you might bump into each other, etc.
Lastly, I’d like to touch on how many guys allow themselves to get into a depressive mess and isolate themselves from the rest of the world. It’s going to be an emotionally tough time for you, but you need to pick yourself up from your couch and keep your life moving. If you’re finding that hard to do, then perhaps you might want to look at some outside help. Whether that is going to a counselor or getting a life coach, you should consider that there are professionals out there who make it their life’s job to help people improve their lives.
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