Do you want to be a more assertive guy and let your masculinity help you get the girl? Assertiveness never means being overly aggressive, pushy, or rude. However, it does mean that you should be confident in taking strong action to get what you want.
A lot of guys have a problem with confidence and assertiveness, but these tips should change everything for the better when you are looking to get girls.
Make your presence known…
No one is attracted to someone who conveys a sense of being powerless. When it comes to being a man, showing your assertiveness and power is very important. When you are trying to attract girls, you want to give off vibes that you are strong man who can give her what she wants. You are charismatic, charming, sexy, and you can keep her safe.
Assertiveness is a key attribute to why girls find bad boys attractive. ‘Bad boys’ have this almost reckless attitude of “If I like it, I’ll go after it.” They are persistent and pushy and they will not give up until they get what they want. There is something attractive to girls about that quality. It shows that he is confident enough to know what he wants and that he is prepared to push hard to get it.
Becoming the bad boy…
Ways that you can achieve dominance this weekend is simply by leading the interaction. Walking up to a girl and being more persistent, being someone that leads her in a direction that you want to go and takes control of the situation. If you find yourself struggling with this concept, try to think about what a ‘bad boy’ would do in the same situation. How would they react?
If a girl totally disses you, do you want to walk away with your tail between your legs or would you stand up to her? Would you let it get to you or just laugh it off and approach another girl instead? By imaging that and thinking of yourself as more assertive and confident guy, you have a major mindset shift. This will enable you to take on a more attractive frame that is much more likely to get a girl to like you.
If you are still finding it difficult to grasp the ‘bad boy’ behavior traits, I would like you to think of a couple of guys that you know who you feel are more confident than you are right now. If you cannot think of anyone you know personally, think of a few ‘bad boys’ that you have seen on screen. For example, Colin Farrell is one person that I used to think of quite often. He often plays the bad boy role in moves and is a bit of a bad boy in life.
You need to try and picture yourself as him when you go out. After observing how the ‘bad boys’ generally act around girls; try and mirror those behaviors for yourself. When you are in an interaction, think about how that person would respond to that situation and emulate it as much as possible.
Changing your approach to picking up girls is a difficult thing to do, so don’t be downhearted if it isn’t working at first. It takes practice before you can start consistently getting girls to like you. I hope these tips have been helpful to you, and I encourage you to go and try them as soon as possible.
If you have any questions or would like more information about how to attract girls, then please let me know in the comment section below. I love reading your responses and always try to my hardest to get back to as many of you as possible.