How To Get Out of the Friend Zone
Your ultimate goal in getting out of the friend zone - and avoiding the friend zone in the first place - is to be a guy who finds it impossible to get into the friend zone.
The Friend Zone is Painful, No Doubt About That
This is the guy you want to be:
Even if he wants to get into the friend zone, he can’t. He’s just not the sort of guy that girls will put in that box; either girls will have sex with him or they won’t really talk or hang out with him. That middle option of being the friend only happens when he chooses for it to happen. The real thing with knowing how to get out of the friend zone is to realize it's not a girl who puts you in this box - it's you who puts yourself in it.
A girl doesn’t put you into the friend zone; you put girls into the friend zone. The way to avoid that is just by being a guy who has either a little bit of a bad boy vibe about him, or or one who's really adventurous. When a girl looks at you, you don’t want to be too safe. You don’t want to look too square, too boring, too stiff, too bland, and you don’t want to look too feminine. A girl needs to feel a certain amount of danger with you, a little bit of risk, a little bit of naughtiness, a little bit of badness.
Or, she needs to feel a sense of adventure. The really true way to know how to get out of the friend zone is to work on your identity. She needs to feel a bit of adrenaline, a bit of excitement, something to do with the unknown and uncertainty. Now, I am not suggesting you go get a tattoo on your neck, but it’s definitely worth looking at your overall image.
Do you look like the guy from 40-year Old Virgin - or do you like more the guys from the Fast and the Furious?
Be honest with the assessment of your image. A big part of learning how to get out of the friend zone is knowing what image you are actually sending out to the world. Are you projecting the safe little mommy’s boy to the world, or do you look like a man? Do you look someone who’s got balls and would be able to defend himself in a fight? On the other side, on the adventurous side, are you someone who leads an interesting life?
Do you do things that are exciting?
Do you take risks?
Or do you just live the routine?
Is every day the same, is every day repetitive, or are you someone who likes to play it safe? Are you the type of guy who likes to have everything well-planned in advance, and know what’s going to happen ahead of time, and always takes a cautious approach? Because I’ve got to tell you, those types of guys are the ones who get in the friend zone, and they’re unable to get out. The safe guys are always wondering how to get out of the friend zone because they put themselves into the friend zone all the time. So I highly recommend beginning to look at the image you’re projecting to the world and start to become more of a guy who would just find it impossible to get into the friend zone by a combination of his image, his attitude, his aura, and his personality. Be the sort of guy who just goes after what he wants and is not afraid to be unique and project a strong identity.
So, begin to assess yourself and the image you’re projecting to the world, and start to transform it and improve it so it’s more in line with the sort of results you want to be getting.
10 Things You Can do Build Extreme Social Confidence:
- Study how to overcome shyness. (imagine doing a University assignment on the subject)
- Research how to improve your self-image. (study “self-image”, what it is, what influences it, and how you can improve it)
- Turn Self-Consciousness into Self-Awareness. (find ways to turn anxiety into a positive action-taking feeling)
- Find Your Strengths (write at least 5 of them down daily)
- Learn to Like Yourself (study how to like yourself more, write about it, and begin to implement some of the strategies you learn)
- Not Conforming (think of ways you are different from the norm, what makes you unique, and what you like about that)
- Focus on Other People (when you go out, don’t think about yourself for the whole night)
- Releasing Anxiety through Breathing (find ways to remove anxiety through breathing, and practice them)
- Releasing Anxiety through Movement (find certain movements that can release anxiety for you, and then do them - recommendations include Qigong)
- Visualization (practice visualization exercises to reduce anxiety )
When you have absolutely no shyness you are free to get physical and intimate with girls with no hesitation. That is the best way to get out of the friend zone - completely eliminate anxiety.
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Great information on this topic. I have had many issues with the friend zone but this really helps.
Cheers