Getting dumped sucks, but it’s bound to happen to anyone sooner or later. Luckily, we have guidelines to dealing with breakups that will help you survive being dumped and come out stronger than ever!
Now I’m going to assume you’re a guy, but the fact is that the advice below on how to get over being dumped is just as applicable to girls, who too are often on the receiving end of a breakup.
The first rule I want to bring your attention to is…
Out of sight, out of mind
Sounds simple right? But reminders of your ex-girlfriend are going to make getting over her that much more difficult. Nobody needs flashbacks every time they look at a certain object. That means you need to:
- Get rid of any photos of her.
- See if she’s left some objects behind at your place that remind you of her. Send them to her or put them away in a box and out of sight to deal with after you’ve recovered.
- Delete her from your Facebook friends list, and make sure she doesn’t pop up in any of your mutual friend’s feeds either (block her entirely).
- Delete her from your contacts list in your phone, block her e-mail.
- Immediately stop attending any events with mutual friends where she might turn up.
The best way to forget about and get over someone is to exorcise them completely out of your life, even if only temporarily.
Breakups don’t last forever
Now, the advice I give above might seem a little harsh, but it doesn’t need to be permanent. It might take you a couple of weeks, or a couple of months, but sooner or later you’re going to get over the other person, and at that point you can re-examine a potential friendship with her from a healthy standpoint where you’re no longer feeling needy or wanting to get back together with her.
Fill up the void!
If your girlfriend was a big part of your life, then being dumped must have left a sort of vacuum in your life. If every Friday night you used to hang out, come next Friday, you’re going to wander what the hell you’re going to do now.
So what you need to do is refocus on something fulfilling and exciting. Put your mind and body to work on something you’ve always been passionate about but never really had the time to do.
The truth is that relationships take time and effort, and we often sacrifice our hobbies and passions to be with our girlfriends. Once you’ve broken up though, you’ll suddenly find yourself with a lot of free time to pursue some of the things you’ve been putting on a backburner.
That might mean going to the gym and getting back in shape, or dedicating more time to your career. Whatever it is, keep your mind busy and active, so that you’re not sitting there dwelling on your loneliness and wallowing in your own self-pity.
The positives of a breakup
And this is where I want to highlight that getting dumped is in many ways a great opportunity to explore who you really are and what you want to do in life. It’s a chance to stop for a moment and look around, look back on what you’ve done, and assess what you want to do next.
Perhaps you’ll want to work on becoming a more attractive guy and get back into the dating scene. There’s no better way to get over an ex-girlfriend than by dating new people, and for that we have something called The Attraction Code. This program is an excellent place to start learning the kind of dating skills that you may have forgotten because you’ve just been in a relationship for too long.