Dear Vin, How do I get my girlfriend to squirt when she orgasms?
Mike, Washington DC
Good question. Start with her largest sex organ…HER BRAIN.
There’s two major parts to getting women to squirt. The first one has to do with you and the second one has to do with her. I believe that all women, on a biological level, are capable of squirting. For most women, it has more to do with their minds. It has to do with how comfortable they are, how relaxed they can get, and their ability to let go and get into the moment.
I don’t believe all women have the mental capacity to get there though.
For women, orgasms are more of a mental process than a physical process.
In saying that, by your letter, if your woman is already having orgasms, then you’re already a fair way along the path. If a guy has a girlfriend and she can’t orgasm at all, then getting her to squirt is going to be a lot of work. Let’s focus first on you. The best skill you can ever develop to get women to squirt is to learn how to massage. I highly recommend not only getting massages for yourself regularly and learning what feels good and what therapists do, but you may want to take course in body massages.
Learn the basics and start to give your girlfriend massages every day.
Buy some essential oils, be able to set the mood, and get her comfortable with being massaged and relaxed. Without a doubt, being an expert at massage is the most important skill you can have for getting your girlfriend to squirt.
The second element has to do with her. How can you help your girlfriend to squirt?
The first thing she’s got to be able to do is relax.
It’s a good idea to take her for massages and help her learn strategies to relax. You can do meditation or yoga classes together and you just get her in the habit of valuing relaxation. Her being able to relax and let go is really critical in getting her to squirt. The next thing that’s good for her is getting her very comfortable with masturbation. Whether she’s using a toy or her hands, the more she masturbates, the more sexual she becomes, the more likely it is that she’s going to squirt.
Sometimes, when girls are in relationships, they don’t do this as much, but it’s really important that you encourage her to deepen her own sexuality and to invest her time in getting to know her own body. A lot of guys sometimes put too much pressure on themselves to do everything when it comes to making a girl squirt, but the reality is, it’s a team effort. Fifty percent of it has to come from her.
You can make masturbation a part of your foreplay. As you and she become more comfortable with masturbation and she becomes more relaxed with it, she will be able to really get into her orgasms and with time she will be able to squirt as she gets more into the feel of her orgasms.
The third element has to do with knowing exactly what you need to say BEFORE she gets into your bed–
Do you know the “covert” words you can use to make her squirt without touching her. Ask her 3 questions. Get into her mind. Discover exactly what you need to say to get her so hot, wet, and horny that she’ll be dying to squirt tonight.