How to handle rejection is advice that’s often easily given but harder to implement. The best way for dealing with rejection is to view it as a positive event rather than a negative.
Rather than looking at rejection as a failure or a major setback in your life; learn to view it as another step closer to being the person that you want to be.
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Handle rejection so that it doesn't hold you back but moves you forward.
Every “no” you receive is giving you feedback on how you can improve the situation the next time around so that you can start getting more “yeses” Learn to view a girl saying “no” to you as bringing you one step closer to meeting the right person that will say “yes” to you. We learn by experience, whether that experience is a good one or a bad one.
Learn from the bad experiences and turn them into positive ones the next time around. That’s what life is about, whether it’s in our relationships, our work, or our life. Once we can learn to turn a negative into a positive, then we have experienced growth.
View rejection as feedback on ways to improve yourself.
Remember that each interaction, each date, and each relationship is going to teach you something if you’re open to being taught. It’s important that you learn to look at rejection as feedback that’s going to help you become a better and more attractive person. Think about what you learned from that rejection, because staying positive and learning from the experience will lead you one step closer to the right girl.
Keep a diary of rejection in your dating life.
Start keeping a diary of your dating life. Record anytime you get rejected or when something good happens. This is a great way to start noticing patterns of failure. The feedback in invaluable in showing you areas where you need to improve. The many times I was initially rejected was because I was being overtly friendly to the girls and I wasn’t showing that I was attracted to them.
By seeing this, I was then able to realize that my ability to escalate on women was one of my major sticking points. I then focused on correcting that, which then helped me improve my success with girls.
Had I not realized this and looked at rejection as being good feedback, I would have continued my dating life blindsided by this hindrance that was prohibiting me from achieving success with women. When you get rejected, avoid moaning about it and becoming negative in your actions, such as binge drinking, binge eating, or sitting around and letting depression overtake your life. Find ways of coping with rejection so that you can move on and start living your life again.
Be persistent and keep at it.
Always remember that the dating world is one of numbers and that Mrs. Right isn’t going to magically appear on your doorstep. You need to work hard in getting out there and meeting tons of girls to increase the odds of finding the right one for you.
By putting yourself out there more, you’re naturally going to open yourself up to more rejection, but you’re also going to increasing the opportunity to meet that right girl for you. If you don’t get yourself out there, then you’ll never meet her.
Unfortunately, life doesn’t work out like movies with the ending where the girl of your dreams just suddenly appears, and then your life will be full of magical moments and you’ll finally win the girl in the end. This could happen, but more often than not your going to have to put in the effort.
Guys that date hot girls are the guys that are willing to put themselves out there and face the possibility of learning how to get over rejection that often follows. They know that by getting out there and exposing themselves; the best possible scenario is the reward of having a beautiful girl on their arms. Dealing with rejection is just a part of life. The sooner you learn to cope with it, the sooner you’ll be that guy who has the girl of your dreams as part of your life.
