As you read through this article on your quest towards learning how to impress your girlfriend, I want you to keep one simple sentence in the back of your mind at all times:
Quality beats quantity.
The time you spend with your girlfriend shouldn’t be measured by how many hours you’re together, but by what you do together in those hours.
You want to apply this principle whenever you’re spending time with your girlfriend, because that’s what women really love – for you to put a little thought into your interactions and dates. Don’t just take her out on a clichéd movie and dinner date – come up with something original or surprising!
This is especially true if you don’t have a lot of time during the week, either because of your schedule, or because unexpected things keep getting in the way. Even though we might not have a lot of time to spend together, when we are together, we ought to have each other’s full attention.
The most obvious thing you can do is to pay attention to her. If she’s telling you about an issue she has in her life, or just some interesting story, make sure that you’re giving her your full attention – that you’re 100% present and in the moment with them.
This happens pretty often with guys who have talkative girlfriends. It’s way too easy to think about something else and get into that mode of not really listening to what they’re talking about – it’s almost like you’re on auto-pilot, just saying yes at the right moments to pretend you’re listening, but you’re not really there.
If you want to know what women need – it’s the attention you give them, and the appreciation you have for her as a person. It’s important for you to value her and pay attention to what she’s saying, otherwise hanging out with her is going to be more of a job than something you enjoy – and no matter how you try to hide that, it will become obvious that you don’t really care, and that’s not a good foundation for your relationship.
One easy way to dedicate more attention to her is to get rid of all the distractions we have these days. Turn off your phone, laptop, and your TV. When you’re with a person, go with the old-school way of interacting with them, and not multi-tasking, sending messages, or looking at the TV while you’re talking to them. This is an excellent way to show that you value her company.
If you’re busy with work, then you need to set some boundaries. Make sure you complete as much work as possible in the time dedicated to it, but once it’s time for your girlfriend, don’t let yourself get distracted by your work.
Don’t forget about your passions
When guys settle down with a girlfriend, they often stop trying. They abandon their hobbies, stop exercising as much, etc. It’s almost as if they only did those things to get a girl in the first place.
Well, here’s some breaking news: girls are attracted to passionate guys who have plans and dreams. Don’t think that in order to build a successful relationship, you need to give up all of your other hobbies. Sure, relationships take time, but if you stop challenging yourself and doing the things you love, you’ll be less attractive to your girlfriend. Women often love supporting guys with their careers or hobbies – and if they don’t, are you really with the right woman?
Think about it: who’s the more attractive guy? The one who comes home from work and plumps himself in front of the T.V. for the rest of the day, or the guy who goes on exciting adventures and has lots of interesting stories to tell?
And it’s not just about attracting women – it’s about enjoying life too. Think about how you really want to be spending your valuable time.
The best setup is when she shares your passions with you, and then you can both spend time together, and do all the stuff you enjoy, whether that’s playing pool or going for a hike.
If you want some more ideas that will help you understand how to impress your girlfriend and what it means to have some real quality time with her, I would recommend you hop on over and have a look at our Pandora’s Box. It’s a pretty exciting look at female psychology and what makes women ‘tick’.