Dear Vin,
I love this girl and I want to become a “thing” but I’m afraid I’ll screw up the process–
How do you make the jump from dating someone, to being in a full-blown relationship with labels, such as boyfriend and girlfriend?
If you have any questions or comments about how to get a girlfriend, I’d love to hear from you. Share your thoughts in the box at the bottom and I’ll answer each one personally.
Learning to be natural in your interactions is the best way to get a girlfriend
The immediate thing that stood out to me with your question was that you said ‘jump’, and this here is the problem — most guys are trying to jump.
While the reality is that after you have had sex with a woman, if the relationship keeps persisting, it has a natural flow about it, and too many guys are ready to go from 0 to 100 straight after having sex with a woman.
This puts pressure on the situation and can possibly even be a hindrance, instead of being beneficial; so if there is anything I can suggest, it would be that guys slow down a little bit and take a little more time. Progressively increase things, like how much time you spend together and how much time you talk together. This will give you a sign of how the girl feels and will be direct feedback from her just based on how she reacts to these things.
I mean once you start inviting a girl to spend more time with you, you get an idea of where she stands, and if she wants to be your girlfriend.
If she’s excited about spending time with you and checking out an art exhibition with you, and starts calling you back as much as you are calling her, then the relationship is naturally progressing in a direction of becoming monogamous and exclusive.
Then and only then, should you start to have conversations with her about it becoming that sort of a relationship. What you want to keep in mind though is that you can make this process a lot quicker by filtering for the right kinds of girls.
Guys, if you want to be able to notice the right kinds of girls, all have to do is check out Pandora’s Box by Vin Di Carlo. This will teach you about the 8 different types of women and which ones are more likely to want exclusive relationships compared to those who just want fun without the pressure.
Do you think it’s important for a guy to figure out his own personality before doing this, or is what he thinks he wants from a woman not as important?
I think if a guy has been in a relationship for a long time, then he can often be in a rush to be in a new relationship again. For a guy like that I would suggest that you go on lots of dates with lots of women, because what this does is it makes you realize that you have options. When you have options, you start to give yourself more dignity and respect, and have standards for the kinds of women you will accept in your life.
This is not only beneficial to you, but it can be attractive to women too, because it shows that you are not the sort of guy who is going to settle for just anyone. Then you won’t be so worried about one particular girl, or having to win her over, because you know that you have other options.
Through that experience, once you have gone on a handful of dates, you’ll know what you’re looking for. You will become more certain that, insofar as you are looking for a relationship, you are looking for the right reason and not because you are needy for her.
If a guy wants tips to get a girlfriend, this is a great place to start.
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