Do you go out and find it hard to start up conversations?
Perhaps you go out and are convinced you will have nothing in common with the people surrounding you? Does this create undo pressure on you? If so, read on for some specific steps to help you strike up conversations easily and confidently.
There are four steps, which are a little bit counter intuitive but will ultimately make a big difference in your ability to get people to open up and make you feel comfortable in a conversation.
I’m interested to hear what you say about making conversations or using these steps outlined below. I reply to all comments personally so tell me what you think in the comment box below.
1. Know your Environment
If you are a guy who has not been out clubbing and does not have a lot of exposure to that scene that could be a daunting experience to begin with. You are already taken out of your comfort zone just by being inside the club. So, if you try to approach the hottest girl in the club on top of that, it can push you way past your edge. As I have explained in other articles, going too far from your edge is actually bad for your development. Check out my other articles on the topic to learn more about your edge and environment.
Two tips I’ve got are (1) find clubs and bars that you feel comfortable in to begin with – ones that you like hanging out there, and (2) go there regularly so you can become a “regular”. Being a regular means you feel at home there, start to build a social network of people you know when you visit, and you’ve got a level of security and safety with the place being familiar that you can fall back on.
2. Become More Interested in People
The big issue people have with starting a conversation and getting involved in the conversation is they feel like they have to carry the weight of the conversation. They feel that they have to talk. If you have a natural fascination about the people you are talking to; you want to know why they are the way they are, that is really going to assist in the conversation.
One of the key mindset that will help you achieve this is being interested but not sold. Being interested in a girl, but still qualifying, still trying to find out what is the stuff that is going on in her life. It will just change the perspective a little bit.
3. Develop your Core
You want to work on developing your core by adding things to your life to make you more valuable and make you feel more valuable. What I find with my conversations is I do not always strike up gold within the first minute or so. But, because I know that I am a great guy, because I know that I have invested in myself, because I have reference experiences that suggests that I am going to be successful with women, I am comfortable continuing the conversation knowing that at some point in the conversation, the girl is going to open up. She is going to recognize what a great guy I am. She is then going to start investing more in the interaction.
4. The Nostradamus Principle
The forth thing is the Nostradamus principle. Nostradamus principle is essentially about talking and throwing a bunch of topics at her knowing that one of the topics are going to speak. The reason for its name is when Nostradamus was around making prophecies, he would talk for 10 hours a day straight making predictions. He would never stop until something stuck and worked. If you follow someone around for ten years and they are taking ten hours a day making predictions, it is inevitable that some of those predictions are going to speak. The same philosophy holds true when talking to girls.
Overall, do not getting rattled, maintaining your focus, continue a conversation or strike up conversations using all the methods outlined above.
If you have a comment or question about any of these steps you’d like to share, please put make at a comment at the bottom of the page.
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