Good conversationalists make the world go around. Do you know someone who can walk into a room, start a conversation with just about anybody and within minutes build a level of repoire that is usually only reserved for friends who have known each other for many years? Well, I can teach you how to be this guy.
People that have this skill make it look so effortless; almost as if they are born with it, however I am here to tell you that being a good conversationalist and being able to make good conversation is a learnable skill.
When you have great conversation skills everything in life comes easier. You have more friends. You build better networks. You negotiation skills are greatly improved and ultimately you lead a happier and more fulfilling life.
In the dating world good conversation skills means more confidence. When you believe that you have the ability to open up any girl, talk to her and spike her interest and attraction it allows you to take more risks.
Let me ask you the question; what would you do right now if you knew that you could not fail? This question becomes a reality when you learn to master the world of conversation. Mastering the world with conversation skills tip number one the Nostradamus Principle, Nostradamus was one of the greatest prophets of our time. He also gives us our first clue to being great at conversation.
Nostradamus used to walk around and make prophecies all day long. He had a team of scribes that would follow him around etching his every word in ink for history to reflect on. Many of Nostradamus’s prophecies have been proven to come true. There are countless more that are far more cryptic. It is almost impossible to align a particular moment in history with a particular prophecy.
I will put it to you like this. If you were to speak for eight hours a day nonstop and prophesize about the future I am sure at some point you are going to have some of those prophecies come true. The same principle can be applied to women and conversation.
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1. Transition the Conversation
If you talk for long enough with a girl you will eventually find something that tweaks her interest. Start talking about your hobbies or recent experiences that may spark her interest. She will either ask questions deepening the interaction or she will relate her own experiences. You may have to talk a little bit more at the beginning of an interaction while you warm the girl up. You want to move across to a balance of 50/50 conversation or 40/60 conversation as soon as possible. That way you can get her to invest in you and spending time with you.
2. Guide the Conversation
A key skill with becoming a good conversationalist is having the ability to guide the conversation toward positive topics and away from negative topics. Negative topics may include talking about ex partners, anything that depresses her or brings her down, or her bringing up topics that you have zero interest in.
When you develop the ability to be able to thread; essentially picking up on her various topic points and choosing which one you want to relate to, you have the skill of being able to direct the conversation toward topics that are going to be favorable to you moving forward.
An example of this is if a girl said to you “the homeless problem in New York is really bad at the moment” you can either choose to respond to the thread homeless people or the thread New York. In that particular situation it is going to be far more advantageous to respond to the thread New York.
You might say, “Wow, I really love New York. The People are so ambitious. Every time I go there I have this new level of inspiration and energy that helps fuel my new projects’’. As you develop the skill to be able to direct conversation not only will you be able to direct it to positive topics but you will also be able to direct it in a sexual direction.
3. Get to the Core
When you talk to someone you can easily float around on surface-level topics, for example talking about the weather. This is a big mistake that a lot of guys make. Surface level conversations have a habit of dying out rather quickly. Instead what you want to be able to do is move the conversation towards passions. Get to the core values that she stands for.
Most guys will ask a girl what she does for work. A star conversationalist will be more interested in why she does what she does for work. What was it that attracted her to that particular job in the first place? What did she want to do when she was 8 years old and what has changed in her life now? Getting to the “why” is going to be far more powerful than getting to the “what.”
As guys, we have a tendency to speak on a factual level. You will find that girls will be far more comfortable communicating with emotion and dealing with passions. This is their language. As you get better at being able to speak it, you will find that your conversations more to a much deeper level quicker.
4. Be a Good Listener
Have flexibility within your conversations. Rather than pre-determining what is going to come next, develop the skill of being spontaneous. Listen carefully to what she is saying and let that guide your next statement or question.
When you listen it is important not to just listen with your ears but to listen with your eyes as well. That will tell you a lot of valuable information about the girl. You will be able to visibly see when the girl is excited about particular topic or when something they say is landing or not landing. Communication is a two-way process. Make sure that you are exceptional about both areas of the communication.
Start using these tips today and you will become an expert conversationalist who can talk to anyone, anywhere about anything!
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