Confidence is like birdseeds for women. Exude confidence and they'll come flocking.
We all know how to approach women. However, what can you do to make a woman approach you? Perhaps it’s making yourself more appealing, or making someone feel more comfortable with coming out and talking to you, as opposed to waiting for you to talk to them?
Well first of all, you want to look like a friendly person – a person who is open to other people talking to them. So if you’re looking a little closed off to the world; perhaps you look a little angry, or you have the mindset that you don’t want to be harassed, then your body language will ward off anyone wanting to come and chat with you. So it is important to indicate with your body language that you are open to interactions. You need to appear warm and welcoming before women will approach you.
Look like you’re open to having a good time. Smile, be happy, and look like you’re in the moment. Just be a friendly person. Maybe have a second look at the clothes you wear too. If you’re in a leather jacket, ripped jeans, and you’ve got tattoos everywhere; then while you certainly might be a nice guy – you’re actually coming off as intimidating to the average person out there. Therefore consider dressing in a neutral way, and carry yourself in a very open manner with plenty of smiling.
The second point to consider is that if you want attractive women to approach you, you’ve got to look attractive yourself. More than that, you’ve got to exude a certain sexual vibe. Get yourself a pretty cool looking haircut, look modern, and dress in a way that really emphasizes your body. Look like you’ve got at least a vague idea about fashion, take care of your skin, and make sure you smell nice. These are all little characteristics that girls find alluring, and may be drawn to you by.
Thirdly, you need to be having fun with your mates. Even if the place is really low key, if you and your mates are having fun, people will gravitate to where all the action is. They’re attracted to this, so if you’re having fun with your friends – they want to be a part of that too.
Is it still possible to get a girl to approach you when you’re by yourself at a bar, a coffee shop, or wherever?
Yeah, certainly. I suppose it’s a little more difficult, but if you’re there smiling a lot, and clearly open to conversation, then you might even find yourself looking her way and smiling at her. She’ll get the indication that perhaps you’re open to being talked to, and that might be a good way to get her to approach you.
That sounds like a pretty good strategy. However, are there places it doesn’t apply to? Perhaps certain environments where no matter what you do, you shouldn’t expect a girl to approach you?
I would advise that whatever the situation, if you see a girl that you like and want to chat to, as a guy, you should always go up to her first. That’s an unwritten law. It’s just what being a man is all about – you’ve got to take action and be the more assertive person there. You’ve got to push yourself a little bit out of your comfort zone.
However, if you follow the advice I gave before and look attractive and appealing, girls that like you will eventually try to find some way to open you up or present themselves to you that will make it easier for you to initiate a conversation.
Think of it as though you’re creating this powerful gravitation field. They may be giving you eye contact or these flirty little gazes. They might accidentally brush up against you or walk into you. So they will often provide you with handy cues and opportunities for you to start a conversation.
If you’re with another girl, but she’s just a friend, is it unlikely that a woman will approach you? I mean if a guy is just with his sister or a platonic friend.
I think it’s hard enough for girls to approach you when you’re just with mates or by yourself. So being with another girl will make things very difficult. I’m not saying it’s necessarily impossible, but if the girl is around your age, I mean unless it’s obviously your mother or something, the girl will instantly assume the possibility that you’re in a relationship with her.
To imagine what it feels like, just reverse the situation. Imagine that you were attracted to a girl, but she was hanging out with a guy around her age that looked like he might be her boyfriend. Are you likely to approach her?
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