"Failure seldom stops you. What stops you is the fear of failure."
How can I overcome my fear of approaching women?
Do you find yourself freezing up when you see a beautiful woman?
Don’t let fear stop you from getting what you want. This is one of the biggest reasons men fail at meeting women.
We received this question from one of our readers,
“Dear Vin,
Most of my life I’ve been brought up by my mother and have played it safe. I’ve never actually broken any bones, and when it comes to staying in my comfort zone, I always choose that option against pushing myself. I’m starting to think that maybe this is affecting my results with women.
Do you have any insights on this?
Paul from LA”
Without a doubt, you are 100% correct.
The most common personality type that struggles with women are guys who like to play it safe and are too cautious. A big part of the success involved not only in meeting women, but also dating and having sex with them, derives from taking risks. Those might be social risks or sexual risks; you might have to face the fear of embarrassment, or the fear of ridicule.
Risk takers are extremely attractive to women therefore, the more you can become a guy who’s a natural risk taker, the better you’re going to do with women.
Very many of the elements composing character traits that enable you to be good with women are closely related to the ability to embrace the unknown. Guys who are faced with anxiety will often be stunted due to the mental clutter that happens to them.
For example, a lot of guys tend to avoid social situations.
They can always find some reason not to go or to not attend a social event, or to avoid certain people. First of all, if you avoid social situations, then the amount of women you’re going to meet will be drastically reduced; and secondly, you’re never going to improve your social skills.
By becoming more curious about other people, and acquiring the attitude that confronting new situations is an exciting adventure, you can start to change your mindset.
The way to overcome fear is to start small.
To start doing little things, but doing them every day. Right now, list five fears you might have. It might be a fear of heights, a fear of spiders or snakes, or maybe it’s a fear of groups of people. I want you to start to overcome those fears today. Say for example you’re scared of heights. I want you to take up indoor rock climbing, or book a sky dive.
I want you to get in the habit of, every week, taking more and more risks and paying attention to the process. Learn from what you experience. Learn from being able to overcome your mind and the resistance that it gives you with and all that internal chatter that happens. Learn the process of letting go, just going for it, and being free.
But also pay attention to how good it feels when you overcome fears, how empowering it is, how powerful it is for your confidence and self-esteem and the amazing effects it has on your self-worth.
This ability to overcome fear is by far the best skill you will ever learn in your journey to becoming good with women.
Once you start overcoming fears you’ll see how easy it is to talk to women. And if you know what to say, women will start making moves on you. This will show you how…
I’ve got even more techniques that’ll show you exactly how to get the women you’ve been wanting. Stop wasting time, stop watching porn, and most importantly stop failing with women. Once you learn the secrets behind the female psyche, you will be successful with women. These secrets are so powerful that I couldn’t just write them in an article. I’ve posted a video explaining everything. Don’t wait a minute longer…
