Do you the best approach to seduce that hot shy girl you’re interested in?
Have you ever been in a situation where you were very interested in a particular girl but she was very quiet and shy? How can you have a conversation with these types of women?
If you have any specific questions about attracting shy girls, you can comment at the bottom of the page. I’d love to hear your personal experiences and I answer each one personally.
You might need to take a more controlled, leadership role in your conversation
For starters, I think it is very important to recognize that when people are shy it is usually because of the particular environment that they find themselves in.
It’s funny, but if you take people who are shy or quiet and you find the right environment for them and put them with the right type of people, then very often they end up being some of the loudest and most enjoyable people to be around.
The first thing that you need to do if you want to chat with a girl who is shy is to recognize that you may need to take up a bit more of the conversational slack during the start of your interaction with her.
Most of us believe that a 50/50 balanced conversation is usually a good thing. However, from my own personal experience, I prefer to move the conversational balance to 40/60 where I’m speaking 40% of the time. I find that it works best if I entice the girl who I am with to invest in the interaction by speaking 60% of the time. Having said that, I know that with shy girls I will probably need to delay that sort of a balance a bit.
Start by taking lead of your interaction
First, I will need to warm her up socially by taking on more leadership in terms of the conversation.
When I am ready to start shifting the conversational balance, it is important that I ask the right types of questions. The sort of questions which I will usually ask a girl are things like what she is passionate about, what she likes to do in her free time, what sort of guys she is into, or what her dreams and aspirations are. We can refer to these type of questions as throwing out a hoop, because the hoop gives the girl an opportunity to invest in the interaction further.
Now, one of the really important things when chatting with a shy girl is that if you throw out a really big hoop then it is going to create a lot of tension.
It is going to be too intense for her and she is not going to know how to respond. So if someone isn’t willing to respond to a big hoop, then you need to warm them up by throwing out some smaller hoops. For example, maybe you could ask her what she does for work or what her nationality is. It will be much easier to encourage her to share more information about herself after she has responded to those less intense questions first.
So if you are talking to a shy girl, take on a bit more conversational leadership initially. After that, you will need to throw out hoops in an intelligent way so that you can encourage her to invest in the interaction further.
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