Do you want to learn what shaping is, how it works, and how it is beneficial to a relationship? In this article, I am going to explore the art of shaping and how it contributes to a relationship.
Shaping is the act of bringing certain preferences you have to a girl’s attention and letting her know that you value these particular qualities. Now, when a guy gets good at this, he can reward a girl when she acts in alignment with those preferences. For example, say you want to shape a girl towards being nurturing and being supportive.
I love it when my woman takes care of me. So to shape her toward being nurturing and supportive, I make a statement of preference. I talk about my mother and how I really respect how nurturing she was toward my dad and her children, and how I value that in a woman. This makes her want to act nurturing toward me, looking for the same value.
Below I will show you the steps to shaping and how it will help your relationship.
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1. Identify What You Want
Identify what it is that you want to shape a girl for. Guys make mistakes with this all the time. They’ll go up to a girl and they’ll say, ‘Wow you look like you’re really tough to approach’ or. ‘You look like you’re having a bad night, what’s going on.’
Using these statements, they’re shaping the girl on a particular negative characteristic. You must be very mindful of negative characteristics. Being clear about what it is that you want to shape a girl for, what qualities you want in a relationship is the first step. Perhaps you want your girl to be laid back, nurturing or funny. Decide what characteristics you want to shine.
2. Express what is Important
Think about ways to express what is important to you. Find examples that showcase the characteristic a lot and give that person a compliment. For example say things like ‘The thing I love about my uncle Dave is he’s such a positive guy.’
Compliment her; for example you can say something like, “I have an intuition about you. When you start to get comfortable around people, you completely open up and you have this beautiful, loving, nurturing energy about you that makes you want to take care of them and make sure they’re unbelievably happy.’ You see, there are different ways that you can express your preferences to her.
3. Positive Feedback
As her behavior starts to fall in alignment with the preferences you have shaped, you then need to be able to recognize those opportunities and reward her with positive feedback. Make her feel special.
Be aware of anytime she goes out of her way to do something. You need to make a big deal out of it. Let her know that it’s something that you value and appreciate.
If you follow these three tips, you’ll find through this process you can actually shape a girl’s behavior and have a long-lasting, happy relationship catered to your needs.
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