How to Talk to Girls For the First Time

| September 8, 2011 | 1 Comment

How to Talk to Girls For the First Time

I’m going to teach you how to connect with girls and  overcome your fears. Essentially how to talk to girls for the first time.

I’m going to give you a guide as I would if you were just starting out.

If you’re just starting on the journey of getting good with girls and you want to build your confidence and you want to start to get more progress results when it comes to you and girls.

I’m going to say the first half of the mission, the first half of the journey, the first half of getting good with girls is simply to do with you handling fear. Learning how to talk to girls for the first time is really a lesson in dealing with fear. It's that simple.

Everything to do with the initial phases of getting good with girls is just perfectly related to overcoming fear.

One of the best books I can recommend you read is a book called: "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers.

This is a really essential book for you to get good with girls, because it all has to do with feeling the fear but doing it anyway.

Every situation that you, guy wants to be good with girls faces, has to do with fear.

Whether it’s walking up and talking to her, whether it’s starting a conversation, whether it’s asking for her phone number, the thing that really stops you from having the results you want is just fear.

It has nothing to do with technique or doing it properly. Figuring out how to talk to girls for the first time is about having no fear in relation to women at all.

Wanting to find some perfect way of doing it is only because you’re feeling fear. Without feat you won't even be too concerned with knowing how to talk to girls for the first time. You'll just do it...

How to Talk to Girls For the First Time

So I want to give you a quick few tips out of the book.

So you can begin to get a better handle on fear.

And what I really want to encourage you to do is to build more awareness about these fears.

So you actually accept that you are scared, you are feeling fear and this is what’s really holding you back and that it’s not a lack of information.

There are 3 levels of fears. The first level of fear is at those kind of like fear that permeates areas of your life. Stuff like becoming older, like aging, maybe becoming disabled, maybe it’s changing careers or losing weight or talking to people on the telephone.

These are fears that are constantly there.

Level 2 fears have to do with our inner state of mind rather than external situations.

Stuff like rejection, success, failure.

And the level 3 fears is the feeling that you can’t handle it. Just the fact that this fear is so strong that it’s just too confronting for you and you’re never able to get away from it.

So the 5 things you really need to understand about fear, is that: Number one: the fear will never go away as you continue to grow.

If you’re continually growing and looking for better results, you’re always going to be dealing with fear.

Every time you step outside of your comfort zone, fear is a natural part of the journey. Fear is a good sign, it means you’re growing.

The second truth is the only way to get rid of the fear is to go out and do something.

So to face your fear.

I want you to get in the habit of doing what you fear most.

Number three is the only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and do it.

Make deposits into your self confidence bank account.

Truth number four is that not only are you going to experience fear when you’re in unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.

You’re not the only guy who’s feeling fear about meeting women, every other guy is fearing it too.

The last truth is that pushing through the fear is much less frightening then living with the underlying fear. Once you take those initial steps you'll find that it's not all that hard at all. Making a big deal out of knowing how to talk to girls for the first time will become a part of your distant memory.

That comes from a feeling of helplessness.

So I highly recommend that you learn to overcome your fears.

You learn to face them and you learn to deal with them.

And although the feeling of fear may not go away, what will change is that you can take action anyway.

You’ll feel the fear but you’ll do it anyway.

This is a major challenge for you to do with your friends! After you do this you'll never wonder or care about how to talk to girls for the first time again!

The Crazy Pow Wow Missions

To be completed by the end of the night or else… (set a punishment for the unsuccessful ones in your group)

  1. Convince a girl to give her you her underwear
  2. Pull a pig (an ugly girl) – cruel, un-PC, but always hilarious (and trust us, guys, girls do this to us)
  3. Get a girl to buy you a drink
  4. Steal something from each bar you visit
  5. Get a free drink from the bar (even if you have to fake diabetes and get a free Coke – this counts)
  6. Go to a karaoke bar and pick the slowest most boring song, and sing it like you mean it. Cry if you have to but make everyone in the room feel uncomfortable.
  7. Find a girl in the bar to switch tops with for 30 mins
  8. Lick the armpits of one of your mates
  9. Talk to a girl and when she asks your name, burp it
  10. Wear your clothes inside out with your pants over your jeans and your socks over your shoes
  11. Wear a toilet paper turban
  12. Lick something in the bar that the group decides on (not a person)
  13. Kiss a girl’s feet at 2am
  14. Do 20 push ups in the bar
  15. Tell a girl your most secret sexual fantasy
  16. Pepper your entire tongue and swallow
  17. Sing everything you say for 15 minutes in the style of Pavarotti
  18. Find a guy in the room you don’t know and tell him you think he’s attractive.
A big part of talking to women is about being comfortable taking social risks and CUTTING LOOSE. This isn't something you want to do all the time but it will help you loosen up dramatically.

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  1. ravi kison says:

    I WANT HELP ON THIS TOPIC

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