I REALLY want to talk to her, but my tongue is tied!
Dear Vin,
How do I learn to talk to strangers?
I’ve got to be honest I’ve been going out every single day and I have the desire to go and talk to people but it’s just not happening. I get in my head and I get all anxious. I think to myself I have nothing in common with these people. I know nothing about them.
They’re just strangers to me and if anything it’s just going to be embarrassing and I build up all this pressure and all these ideas in my head and just even writing it to you now just gets me really anxious. This seems so much harder than I want it to be but it is something I want to work on. What can I do to make this easier because I seriously am just thinking about giving up?
Callum, – Las Vegas
To learn to talk to strangers, I encourage you to study the idea of social anxiety because you’re probably suffering from it.
I’ll give you an example: Imagine you wanted to learn dancing, but you had a sprained ankle and you just tried to ignore the sprained ankle and learn to dance. Obviously, it would be very difficult. Every part of learning to dance would be very difficult and quite painful.
This is the same as learning to socialize when you have social anxiety.
Social anxiety causes you to want to avoid social situations; in particular talking to people you don’t know in public places. There are a lot of very good ideas for learning to overcome social anxiety. You’ll find that in many articles on this website and other websites.
I recommend as a first step that you check out the audio program called “Overcoming Social Anxiety: Step By Step.”
It may be a little bit boring to listen to but the advice is very solid on how you can begin to increase your threshold for social anxiety and other related aspects such as social pressure or putting too much social expectation on yourself.
So many guys who want to learn dating skills are suffering from social anxiety, but don’t actually know it. They are unaware this is what is holding them back and when they remove the social anxiety they often find that they don’t even need dating advice. Everything from talking to women to asking them out to meeting to new people comes naturally for them once they lift the stigma of social anxiety.
It may be a good idea for you to spend the next six to twelve months purely on the topic of social anxiety.
Work every day to overcome social anxiety so the effects on your happiness and on the quality of your life will be improved astronomically. It will like getting in a rocket and going to the moon.
It’s important to follow through on the programs, tapes, and other lessons about overcoming social anxiety. Don’t short shrift yourself and think that it is too hard and all that. Each step that you take going forward will be easier than the last one was. And so on and so on going forward till all that pain goes away. In good time, you will feel better and no stranger will be a stranger very long as you talk to people and make friends out of those strangers.
Do you have any questions about talking to strangers? Ask in the comments below and I’ll answer personally.
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