How to talk to women

I just need to say that most advice on what to say and how to talk to women is totally useless, when it comes to real-life situations.

This advice might be fantastic and have all the best 'talk to women' tips...but in the moment when you are actually talking to a specific girl you find really attractive, it all goes out the window.

Every guy wants to know how to talk to women, but once you're in the real situation, planning and practicing is only theory.

In boxing they have a saying: “everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face." What they mean is that when you're in a stressful and challenging situation, like in the boxing ring, all the pre-planning in the world is good for nothing.

When I coach guys, I often use a dartboard as an illustration for the best solution for any problem.

This is crucial to understand how to handle the goal of knowing how to talk to women once and for all. Now, a dartboard has a big wide circle on the outside and a tiny bullseye right in the middle. When you're dealing with meeting and talking to women, the outside of the dartboard represents all the things like conversation, approaching, habits, and techniques, and the social stuff you are normally either trying to do or to stop doing. And like that outer dartboard, it's huge and it attracts our attention.

The usual problem that guys face when trying to learn how to talk to women is that they focus too much on the surface - the part that doesn't score you the points.

In reality, changing a bunch of habits and little social things is difficult to do. So for most guys who focus on the "outer dartboard" issues, nothing seems to work. Anybody can offer advice and teaching, but none of is going to work unless you have the talent to hit the bullseye....if you can do that, all the stuff on the outside of that dartboard will fix itself automatically, with little to no effort on your part.

Sounds great, doesn't it?

So what is the bullseye? It’s a concept called "self-trust."

If you have self-trust, you'll be successful even if you don't know how to talk to women and even if you've never read a single tip on how to do it. Self-trust is the real key in knowing how to talk to women. It happens naturally when you believe that you can handle a situation. You have to know for certain that even if things go wrong you’ll be okay, that if something unexpected occurs you’ll deal with it, and that you already have everything you need for success inside you.

A lack of self-trust means that you’ll always be searching outside yourself for the answers, and you’ll tend to second-guess yourself and want to over-plan. You’ll be reluctant to throw yourself into an unknown situation, or to feel free to experiment or try things,  both of which are key ingredients to getting good with girls.

For you to have asked the question that led you to this page you've got to be lacking some self-trust. So let's find you some! One of the best tools to cultivate self-trust is called sentence completion. It's an important, powerful way to find answers within yourself, and to begin to value those answers that you provide yourself. Once you know yourself well enough, knowing how to talk to women in every situation for the rest of your life becomes possible. This is not to say that outside advice is not powerful and will never be useful to you, because it is. However, you always want to balance your own ideas with outside ideas....and you want to be able to respect your own advice as much as anybody else's.

Sentence completion is very simple. All you do is write the start of a sentence, and then write as many endings for it as you possibly can.

Here's an excellent example: Start a sentence with:
Some excellent things I could say to say to women are…

Now, write out 10-20 endings to that sentence. Go ahead!

Some other great sentences for this exercise could be:
To become a master of talking to women, I could…
I’d enjoy talking to women about…
To have more confidence with women, I'm going to…

This technique is one of many with unlimited power and can unleash your potential. It's a unique bit of dating advice, where everyone else is just giving you stuff that won't be practical in the real world. There's no-one else teaching you the "real game!"

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