One of the most basic questions guys have is what are some tips for talking to women?
How do you get the ball rolling? What things can you say at the start to get the conversation fired up? This is where most people struggle. For a lot of guys, they are actually not too bad once the conversation is going, but it’s that element of getting it started, the first words, the initial movements, that seem to cause guys the most stress.
Here are some way to learn to talk to women, so this is never a problem for you again.
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One of the best things you can do is to be as warm as possible.
What do I mean by warm?
It’s kind of like when you go to cook something and you warm up the oven. It’s already hot when you put something in it. So when you want to talk to girls, when you go to start a conversation, you want to be very socially warm and feel relaxed. We all know how hard it is to talk to girls when we are cold socially, if you haven’t said anything to anyone, when you’ve been walking around not talking for a few hours, holding all your thoughts in your head.
Then when we see an attractive girl or girls, it feels like an Evel Knievel jump, where he jumps over some canyon on his bike; it feels like a big thing to do. Whereas, when you are already warmed up, when you are socially warm, if you can get yourself boiling, then talking to a girl is not a problem, because you realize that the first things you say aren’t that big a deal.
The first things you say don’t matter at all.
As long as you can keep it flying from there, you can keep talking and not let the initial resistance and your own negativity get to you, then you’ll be doing fine. Some of my favorite ways to get warmed up are to be as social as possible before I talk to girls by getting on my phone and ringing people in my family, or friends of mine; I’ll just talk to random people. This is like doing warm-up exercises at the gym. But this gets me verbally warmed up.
The next thing is I don’t mind being a little silly, so I don’t mind doing a few wacky things like randomly asking people for directions, laughing out loud, telling people a joke, dancing a little bit silly.
I don’t mind doing things that will lower my sense of embarrassment and how self-conscience I am, just to get me shaken up. Sometimes I’ll shake my body around, do a few stretches, and yell things out loud. I’ll do things that get me outgoing, extroverted, a little out there and comfortable taking risks and bringing attention to myself. That’s what it’s all about; starting a conversation is just about getting yourself out there and being willing to take a risk.
Bonus Section — Being More Confident:
- Make a list of your strong points — all the positive things about yourself and the things that you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have received or things that come easily to you. It doesn’t matter what it is, if it’s good, write it down.
- Choose two of those things that you want to work on to improve even more. It’s important to succeed and, by concentrating on the areas you are already good at, you will have a better chance of becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success builds upon success.
- Exude confidence even if you don’t feel like it. Talk to yourself in an encouraging way, stay away from as many
negative thoughts and people as you can. Instead, surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit that builds confidence.
- Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to doing. It can change your life and help your confidence level to rise. See yourself as the self-confident person you want to be and, before you know it, you will become that person. If you have a set-back, do not let it get the best of you. Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and how good it felt, and then try again. Each additional time will help you to build your confidence, and confidence building will become a way of life.
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