Is there a fine line between a woman liking what you’re saying and doing; and not liking it? How does a guys differentiate, how can you tell if she’s actually being turned off by you? Or instead perhaps she’s trying to play hard to get or trying to not seem slutty? Maybe she’s sort of self-conscious and you’re moving too fast, or being overly flirtatious.
This all comes down to you — it always comes down to you. The first step is to have a certain level of self-respect and confidence in yourself. This is going to be a great way for you to gauge the difference between when you’ve done something that she considers wrong, and when you’ve done something that you consider wrong.
Sometimes that woman might not be the sort of woman that you want to be around. She might be someone who is very bitchy or very dramatic or whatever. You definitely don’t want to be the guy who is apologizing or trying to change himself to just to fit a woman’s needs.
Just move on, there are plenty of other women out there. The more you can get into that mentality of realizing that there’s an abundance of women, the easier it’s going to make recognizing when a woman is just testing you, and when she’s genuinely not worth the chase.
A strong mindset to come in with, is simply to believe that all women are attracted to you. This means that whatever signals or actions she sends your way you can interpret those as her simply being more interested in you. It’s a much better outlook then assuming the opposite, and it will get you a lot further in your interactions.
If a guy is with a shy type of woman, and he’s making advancements, but she’s shying away; is this a sign that she doesn’t want to move forward? Are there things that you can do to make her more comfortable with you?
You would be surprised, but some of the shyest girls I’ve met tend to be the most crazy and kinky sexually. Never let that thought of her being shy necessarily make you think that she might not be interested. One thing you can be certain of with a shy girl is that if she’s still feeling shy and not opening up, that more comfort needs to be established.
For the most part, you’re not out of the game no matter what the girl might be doing. I mean, if she’s telling you she’s not interested but she’s conversing with you for 10 minutes and hasn’t moved away, there is a good chance that she’s attracted.
Guys are being taught so many techniques, and told to look out for so many things, that they end up micro-managing everything and creating more roadblocks for their own success. They lose out to opportunities with women who are more than attracted to them, simply because they’ve over thought things. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot, go in assuming attraction, and watch the effect it has on your game!
