If you are having trouble with your self-esteem and confidence around girls, remember you are not alone. Thousands of guys are all asking, “How can I become more confident?”
Unfortunately, there is no quick fix solution that will work overnight. However, I want to give you some helpful long-term tips that will help you become more confident, attractive, and a lot happier with your life.
These tips are designed to help you improve everything about you – from your career path to your sex life. As a result, you’re going to be a kickass person that achieves many great things in life. Before you know it, you will be the envy of every average guy out there. Being above average sounds like something you might want in your life, right? Yes, I thought so.
First of all, get a piece of paper out and a pen and split the page into several sections. The headings that you give to these sections are up to you, but for example you could choose Career, Goals, Appearance, Spirituality, Fitness, Financial and Social. Now you need to honestly rate yourself on how you feel about each of these categories.
For instance, take a long look at your current career path. Are you going in the right direction? Are you really happy with your career? Are you happy with what you are earning? Goals, what are your goals in life? Where do you want to be in five years’ time? What do you want to achieve on your time on earth? Where do you want to go? Ask yourself similar, applicable questions for the rest of the section headings and take a note of your thoughts and feelings. You need to be totally honest with yourself, otherwise you are not going to be able to make the changes that you crave.
Set your goals…
Once you’ve given yourself an appraisal for each of these sections, I want you to think of how you’re going to improve on each of them. Start off by setting yourself some really short-term goals that you can aspire to achieve in the next week or so. Long-term success, confidence, and happiness are achieved by the accomplishment of lots of little goals.
For example, if you want to improve your spirituality, you could set yourself an objective to meditate for five minutes every morning of the following week. For improving your confidence through fitness, you could look at joining a gym or just something as simple as going for a run after work. Write your objectives down and have them handy at all times so you can check them off as they have been completed.
Increase the pressure…
A fantastic way to improve your motivation and resolve when accomplishing your objectives is to find an accountability partner. This could be a friend or family member that is prepared to help you keep track of whether you are keeping up with your objectives.
You could even look to join an online self-help forum so you can all keep track of one another’s progress. Not only does it give you inspiration but you can ask questions and post some of your own goals and achievements on there. These forums are made up of a community of like-minded and positive people who are all trying to better themselves. It can be difficult to go at it alone, so why not share your experience with others and motivate each other!
When you improve the other areas of your life, you are destined to become much more confident in general. This new-found confidence is fantastically useful for approaching and talking to new people, especially girls. I hope you can use these tips to improve your confidence and your life.