Are there any benefits at all to making that big leap and getting married? Is marriage really a good thing, when things are good already?
A lot of guys go out and date a bunch of girls and pretty much have everything they ever wanted; someone to talk to, hang out with, go out with, and sleep with.
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So, if they are having their cake and eating it too, what benefit would there be to tying the knot and making that big jump into a life-long commitment?
That really is a great question. I’m not married and I don’t see it on the horizon for me. For me personally,I see the benefits of not getting married. But in order to be objective, I started quizzing some of my friends who were making that jump from a long-term relationship into marriage, because I couldn’t really understand why two people would need that piece of paper to symbolize their commitment to each other.
The general consensus is that marriage is a celebration of love.
I thought that if you had found true love and held a deep level of commitment to them, then that would surely be far more binding then signing a document. However, the way that it was explained to me is that marriage is a celebration of two people coming together, a celebration of the time that you have spent together, and a celebration of the time that you hope to be spending with each other down that journey of life.
Marriage is a commitment of persistence, loyalty, and faith.
Marriage is good because it is recognition of a commitment that you are making that you have a level of persistence. You have a goal to work towards, that you are going to make this work. I think that persistence, loyalty and faith can be really powerful things. If there is a level of loyalty and support involved, it seems to stabilize couples and is beneficial in a relationship. You are making a statement to each other that even if things do go a little sour you recognize that you are going to be persistent and work through the challenges that you are facing.
The challenge is not to take your marriage for granted.
However, having blind persistence and blind faith are fraught with danger. They often lead people down the path to unhappiness. I think one of the challenges that married couples have and that couples find when they get married is that they stop living life the way that they had prior to the marriage.
This can really affect the marriage because they start becoming far too comfortable in the relationship. And once you become comfortable, the effort to make it work stops. You must always remember to “keep the flame burning“.
Is marriage good for you? There are benefits to being in a marriage and it is clearly a positive thing to have that deep level of love and commitment to someone and receive that love back. I think there are also some key dangers and potholes that guys need to be aware of before entering into that level of commitment. Marriage is a good thing, but the big question here is, are you ready to commit your life to only one person for the rest of your life?
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