Know what you want?
If I was to give you the best advice on relationships that I know it would simply be…
Know what you want.
This is really critical in regards to getting a clear picture in the head, before you even worry about trying to get into relationship. Knowing exactly what it is they want not only in the relationship but also in the girl and also in the way of life is important for a guy. If they have a better understanding of where they’re going with their life, they can find a girl who essentially will be able to support their life.
Sadly a lot of guys that want to date have very little going on their life to attract women. Figuring out how to know what you want comes down initially to trying as many things as possible.
What I’d like to do is, do a top ten list. What I’m asking you guys to do is to do a mind dump. The way that I did this, I set five minutes on a timer and I then put a circle around the title of whatever it is I’m going to be concentrating on, so let’s say it’s ideal relationship.
I wrote it down in the middle of the page and do a circle. I just mind map that and I draw lines all the way up to that ideal relationship and anything that comes to my mind that’s important to me I wrote it down. What’s truly important through this mind mapping process, is that you just you know you withhold judgment for a period of time and basically whatever comes to mind go with it. In other words, you don’t want to over think this process. Get ALL your thoughts on paper.
This will really help you to gin clarity on what you want.
Put it down on paper and then at the end of the five minutes, it’s likely that if you’ve been really active. Just let your mind run free you’ll have a list of anywhere from 15 to 20 things. Then you can go back and intellectually determine what are going to be your top ten. I do that process for my ideal relationship and I do that for my ideal girl and I also do that for my ideal life.
When I’m done, I have this great list of things that will often be in complete alignment with each other. Let’s say you got the ideal girl, but maybe the relationship that you are in is not the right fit. To know what you want is to spend time brainstorming and geting clarity on everything about how you feel.
Maybe she wants to settle down and have kids but you are more focused on keeping things casual, because in order for you to be able to fulfill your ideal life you want to be able to travel. Maybe you want to be able go out and meet lots of people and you don’t necessarily have the time and energy to be able to commit to one person. I know personally that I discovered what I wanted by exploring as much of life as I possibly could. Really going wild with experimentation.
That process is really important first, to get clarity, but secondly to make sure that all your values are in alignment. The final part of this process is that something magical happens when you put ideas down on paper. When you put that out to the universe, you will find that you naturally start to attract these qualities into your life. Especially if you really focused on them and give them a lot of energy. I think it’s a really good first step that anyone should bring in to the relationship.
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