When you are using dating exclusively to find the “love of your life”, you usually can’t find it because you are searching for love in all the wrong places, and all the wrong girls.
You would be amazed in the amount of letters we receive from guys who are looking for a love relationship in every date they go on, and can’t ever seem to find it. Following is just an example of letters from guys looking for someone to love.
Dear Vin,
I just always thought that dating was simply an excuse for people to go out and have fun, and I am wanting more than that. I just haven’t been able to find anyone to settle down with, and I don’t know where to even look, or even what to do anymore. Should I be dating more, and will that allow me to eventually find “the one”?
Mike from New York
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When you stop looking for love while dating, it will usually find you when you least expect it.
When you stop looking for love in every women you date, you’ll ease the stress and learn to just have fun.
Learn to feel comfortable when your dating someone, comfortable with your sexuality around women, and learn to see yourself as being successful with women. This will help you move closer towards finding the woman that you want to be with in a long-term relationship. And it will improve your success in maintaining that relationship.
You’ve got to learn to walk before you can run. Guys that are looking for love on every date they go on are constantly missing opportunities that exist within their life. When your focus becomes solely on dating for the purpose of finding true love, you lose any kind of momentum that you have going for you. Your momentum is based on someone lonely looking for love. That is not the momentum you want in creating the right environment for finding a women your compatible with.
Changing your mindset will change your dating success.
Definitely get back into the dating scene, approaching many types of women and look at it from this perspective – you eventually will meet your soul mate and experience those deep feelings of love. But in the meantime, learn to have fun on the journey of finding love. There’s no reason why you can’t build a lot of sexual experiences before you finally find your true love and settle down with that one special someone.
The way that I look at it, the more sex that I have the better I become at it. When you look at it that way, you’ll be more likely to be able to physically please a partner later down the road. Learn to look at every date that you go on as building more experience, which adds to your confidence in learning how to satisfy a woman. It’s about having a fun lifestyle before you settle down with one person.
Learn to see dating as broadening your horizons.
Without going out and meeting a variety of women, you are less likely to find the one you want to have a serious relationship with. How else are you going to find the perfect woman if you don’t go out and meet women in the first place? That should be the catalyst for building momentum in your life, because without that momentum, you miss out on a lot of opportunities of meeting different types of women.
Guys that only look for love tend to become a bit too serious about life, and when they actually meet a women she soon gets the feeling that he’s going to be a bit too needy. She’ll feel like he’s going to cling onto her a little bit too tightly and suffocate her. Lonely guys create this type of ambiance, and women pick up on that.
When you seem desperate in your need for being in love, you’re not going to do a lot to draw the wrong type of woman towards you. The only women that you’re going to get are women who like being depended upon. That’s not the sort of woman that you want to settle down with in a long-term relationship. It will backfire on you, because you are inviting her to be in control, which will soon become a turn-off in your quest for love. That is not the kind of love you want to be involved in.
Stop looking for love in every place and every date you go on, and love will find you. It will not be out of desperation, but out of a mutual need of wanting to be with each other. There is no other perfect love than that.
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