First dates are nothing new, everyone goes on them. But, the secret is how to make a first date memorable, so that the date sticks in her mind and doesn’t become “just another first date”.
You don’t want to become just another journal entry in a girl’s list of uneventful first dates. In order to prevent this, and have pages written about you and the first date you took a girl on, there are important things to keep in mind to make that first date memorable and worthy of many pages, instead of one line that says “boring”.
Planning is crucial, so be prepared.
It’s very important to plan, and have plans for the plans that don’t work out as you expected. Make sure you have options set up so that you know where you are going to go, and what you have planned to do. It doesn’t really matter where you take your date, as long as you have fun, you’re enthusiastic, and you’re both having a great time.
Have back up plans ready, or contingency plans set in place, in case your first option goes haywire. I like walking dates however they come with risks. If you have planned to go walking in a special park, and it’s raining, you can’t very well carry out your first idea. It’s always good to have another plan in mind, so you aren’t caught unaware and panic.
Girls love being led, so be the leader.
Keep in mind that you are the leader on this first date; you are the alpha dog here because most likely you are the one who asked her out. This means it’s your job to say,“We’re going here now. We’re doing this now. Come see what I have in mind”. Have some good and interesting dating ideas ready to go, and she will follow willingly once she sees what’s in store.
You have to know not only exactly where you’re going, but have all the logistics set up correctly as well. This means you have different activities set up and they’re all within range. You’re not just going willy nilly from here to way across town. They are all doable considering the conditions, and you are the one that’s taking her to all these cool and exciting places, without spending half the day getting from one place to another.
Pick great places for a first date.
One thing I like to do on a first date is go hiking. It’s always nice to enjoy fresh air instead of the stale air of the office I have been in all week. Most girls love beautiful sunlight and gorgeous nature scenes, where we are able to sit down and have a picnic. Girls find picnics very romantic; a little music, a little wine, it’s a great idea for relaxing and getting to know one another.
You don’t have to be as adventurous as that. You could simply take a girl to a beautiful park for a little walk and that’s completely fine. A nice relaxing stroll walking side by side is both relaxing, and rewarding. You could go to a museum and talk about the exhibits. Think of anything that will initiate conversation; a great setting should be one that gives you something to talk about .
If sex is what you have in mind, then creating comfort is a must.
A great way to make her more comfortable with having sex during or after the date is for you to be comfortable about it. If you’re too fixated on thinking about, ugh, this thing that we’re going to do, or the sex, then you’re investing too much emotion and energy into it and that actually translates into your body language.
It translates into your speech and your tone. You need to be relaxed and very comfortable. The date should be comfortable enough so that sex happens and seems like it was part of the whole date. No thinking twice about it because it became a natural progression of the date. It started with a kiss, and the rest became history.
There must be a comfort level involved where you are both relaxed, and there is no pressure involved. Pressure can become your own worse enemy, especially in regards to ending a date with sex. Make sure on your date that you are using a lot of your body language, and more importantly body contact, so that she is comfortable with your touch.
If you’re not touching her throughout the whole date, and then she ends up in your house and in your room, and you begin touching her, it will most likely have the freak out effect on her. You will come off too strong and she won’t be comfortable with that. It’s very important throughout the date that you involve activities where you get to touch each other.
If you are close to each other and there has already been a lot of physical contact, then she will be more comfortable with you in an intimate setting. She will be more in tune with you, and since you have made sure that the date hit all the marks, then she will be more willing to let you touch her and have a bit of romance.
When you are on that first date, make sure it’s not just an ordinary first date. Girls all over the world have ordinary first dates, and she is probably expecting more of the same. If you make your first date memorable, she will have no trouble remembering the date, and the one who created it.