Opposites attract or birds of feather?
Read on to find out what’s really important for a happy relationship…
How important is it to find a girlfriend who’s into what you’re into? Who’s passionate about the same hobbies and activities?
There is research that essentially says that when two people have a common theme in their life, they almost create this bubble between them, a bit of a link. It works like a conspiracy theory, in that it blocks out other people around them. It’s almost an “Us against them” kind of energy, and it can be a really powerful link within relationships.
On the other hand, I have certainly experienced the phrase, “Opposites attract.” From my own perspective, when I get into a relationship, I’m ultimately getting into a relationship because I want to learn something new from the other person.
Learning new ideas, and having new experiences can be a really positive part about hanging out and spending so much time with someone who maybe has a slightly different world view from yours, or has different things that they are passionate about.
In terms of trying to find a girlfriend who has similar interests to you, there is one truly important issue that guys need to be made aware of. That is to get used to talking about things that you are passionate about. A lot of guys, when they begin approaching women and hitting on women, feel like they need to get a sense of what a girl might be into, and then talk about those kinds of topics.
They feel like if they can talk about things that she is interested in, she is going to want to sustain a conversation with them. Unfortunately guys that do that miss a really important point: the point that girls want to be able to react. They don’t want you to react to them. They want you to be their rock and guiding light, which will then allow them to be reactive and move emotionally through your world.
Men who have really strong personalities and really strong themes will often find that girls will change their personalities to fall in alignment with theirs.
In order to be someone who talks about what you are passionate about, the first thing is that you need to find your passion: you need to determine exactly what it is that you are passionate about. The second part is that you need to be good at relating your experiences, when you talk to girls.
So if a girl is talking about how when she was a little kid she was a ballet dancer, and she performed on stage, you might not be able to relate directly to that experience. But you may have something from your world that could relate to the emotions that she was experiencing at that time.
Maybe it was getting up and giving a speech at work, maybe it was when you were playing sports, and the game was on the line, and you had to step up and score the winning goal. When you’re talking to girls, you need to be able to relate your experiences to other people’s experiences, and relate the emotions that you or she felt. Finding your passion, and being able to talk to girls about it, is exactly how you will get a girlfriend – whether she’s into the same things you are or not.
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