Do you sometimes run out of things to say to girls? I can teach you tricks so you will never have that problem again!
The tricks I am going to teach you are conversational tricks you can use so that conversation is an area of confidence for you, not fear. The common mistakes guys make with conversation are vast and varied. From not being an interesting guy to asking too many questions to simply not being comfortable with periods of silence.
Read on to learn the three things I recommend you do immediately to really build your conversational confidence.
What do you find challenging about never running out of things to say? Please comment in the box below.
1. Go out!
Spend less time at home alone. What I want you to do right now is calculate exactly how many hours and how many minutes you spend at home on your own this week excluding sleep. Next week, reduce this number. See if you can reduce by 20 percent or 50 percent. Now you may think to yourself, what am I going to do?
It doesn’t matter what you do, just get out of the house and be social! You can walk around your city taking photographs. You can take up a new hobby. Go out to a bar, it doesn’t matter but I want you to spend less time alone. In all my studying students and their patterns, I found that the biggest impedance to your conversational confidence is just spending too much time alone. So the less time you are alone, the better you’re going to be with your conversational confidence.
2. Realize You do Not Need Conversation To get Girls
It is important to realize that you don’t need to be good with conversation to pick up girls. I have picked up a lot of girls and I barely talk to them at all and I have friends who are great with girls, yet are pretty poor with conversation. They’re usually good at making up for their lack of conversation with good at touching girls. To take all the pressure off yourself with conversation and the idea that you need to be a great conversationalist, because I found those things are fairly irrelevant for picking up women, instead work on your body language. Put your hand on the small of her back while walking to the bar; let her know you are interested without using conversation.
I have even met a lot of guys who end up picking women up when they go to a country that doesn’t speak English because they stop talking so much and start communicating more non-verbally, and because they’ve got less to say they start showing more interest in girls and hitting on them a lot stronger. So it can be good for you to actually talk less and do more.
3. Overcome Shyness
The biggest obstacle you’re going to have to being great at conversation is if you’re shy. The shyness is going to hold you back, limit you and restrict you. Being shy really holds back your ability to open up and express yourself the way you’d like. It’s really important that you understand what shyness is, realize it’s that’s socially conditioned, and understand what you need to do to get rid of it. Start stepping out of your comfort zone. Talk yourself up in your head, walk over to the hot girl by the bar and be confident!
If you follow these three tricks, you will be better with your conversation skills, increase your non-verbal game play and learn to break out of your shell. Now, turn off the computer, get out of your house and go do something with someone!
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