Is social anxiety preventing you from meeting women?
(And please take 32 seconds after reading and one of your struggles with social anxiety. I’d like to hear from you and I’ll try to answer personally.)
***I want to point out right at the beginning that this is not medical or psychological advice.
In many places anxiety is treated as a medical condition…
And it rightly should be. There are a lot of people that avoid getting professional help and try and “go it alone” and that never works. I’ve had a mountain of success with students where nothing else worked for them by sending them to a specialist clinic to get treated. Look at a list of anxiety treatment centers here.
So many guys that never get results with women are suffering from anxiety. The ones that admit it, and get something done about it are the ones that tend to turn things around. When most guys think about doing workouts to be more attractive, they generally think about hitting the gym, getting stronger, getting fitter and maybe developing a six pack, their pecks, and some serious guns. Now of course, that will certainly improve your chances of being attractive to women, and probably even more importantly improve your confidence. However, it is equally as important to do a warm up before approaching girls.
One of the biggest challenges that most guys find is when they are doing cold approaches to girls that they’re attracted to; if they’ve had a lack of success with women before, sometime this is because of a lack of success in other areas of their life. Usually that’s because they don’t take a lot of action, or a lot of initiative.
Certainly, if the action creates some sort of social pressure or social anxiety, then they’re very open to steering themselves away from that. Despite not taking any sort of action towards addressing your social anxiety, to go from zero to a hundred, as in to approaching an attractive girl, is a massive jump for a guy. A lot of the time, it’s just too big of a jump for him to make.
Take small steps to kill your social anxiety
Working out and being muscular while not dealing with your social anxiety issues is really not going to solve your problems. After all, women aren’t going to suddenly start asking you out on a date. What you want to be able to do is get into the habit of taking small steps on a daily basis towards overcoming your social anxiety, and the following sequence will help:
Step 1: Make eye contact with five people as you’re walking down the street. Make eye contact, sustain it, hold it, and if they look away that’s great, but just get into the habit of being able to hold it. You don’t need to say or do anything at this time. After you’ve done that, make eye contact and smile at five people as you walk down the street. After that, make eye contact, smile, and get the other person to smile back with five people as you walk down the street.
Step 2: Make eye contact, smile, and say “Hi” to five people as you’re walking down the street. Then make eye contact, smile, say “Hi”, and ask the person a functional question. The functional question might be “Do you have the time?” It might be “Do you know where the nearest bank is to here?” “Do you know where the nearest coffee shop from here is?”
If you suffer from social anxiety, and did this exercise on a daily basis, you could move through the entire process in probably twenty to thirty minutes. Keep it ongoing for two to three weeks, and approaching attractive women would become almost something that you felt compelled to do; it becomes a natural part of your life. You would feel attracted and pulled to go towards that girl.
This is a work-out that people wanting to improve their dating lives should be incorporating into their daily routine, or even just people wanting to reduce their social anxiety and improve their social skills.
Remember that only a medical professional can truly diagnose social anxiety.
And if it isn’t stopping you from at least approaching girls when you’ve had some liquid courage chances are that you just lack confidence. Every man could use more confidence and it all starts with knowing exactly what to expect (and what she wants) when you approach her.
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