Dating couples often fall into a routine of boredom and wonder how to get the fun and excitement back.
As couples start dating, it’s not hard to find ways to play and excitement is always around the corner. But many times, after the newness has worn off, couples fall into the dinner and movie trap and forget how dating is supposed to be. They often don’t know where to go on a date anymore, or what to even do. Somehow they have forgotten that dating is suppose to be fun.
There are many couples who struggle with the dating boredom trap and don’t know how to escalate past the routine they have suddenly found themselves in. Somehow they’ve forgotten how to make things fun and exciting. Routine is often easy to fall in to, and harder to climb out of.
They need to remember the early days when the attraction was at an all time high, just because they genuinely enjoyed spending time together. After reading this article, I would recommend reading Vin DiCarlo’s Attraction Code, which is a product offered here on this website.
When I first start dating a girl, I always make it clear with them that we are just going out to catch up, have a few drinks, and if there is a mutual attraction then we can see each other again. If not, no harm done, at least a good time was had and we both got out for the night. This creates dating without pressure. There are a few reasons why dating this way is a great idea, and keeps the pressure off as well.
Reason 1- Being needy is not attractive.
First, it demonstrates that you are not needy. By not appearing needing, it usually creates the impression that you have other women in your life. You have an abundance and aren’t out there seeking “the one”. If it doesn’t work out with this particular girl, then there is no harm, no foul. And also no pressure.
It goes the other way as well, She is going to be far more likely to go on a date with you because she knows that if it’s not working out, she can basically call the date off at any point and you won’t be offended. It won’t be awkward for her. She knows that because you are both comfortable with this idea that there will be a high chance of fun dating activities and she wouldn’t want to call that off, would she?
Reason 2- Keep the term relationship out of the mix.
The second reason to keep this in mind is to not become focused on building a relationship. Instead, be focused on building a fun and playful vibe. If you build that vibe the relationship will follow when the time is right. You can start a date by many type of ice breakers, such as fun dating questions, asking each other what their most embarrassing moment was, etc. Just keep in mind that dating play is fun and exciting in itself.
When I first get to know a girl in a dating environment it is all about being playful, fun flirting, teasing her a little, teasing myself a little bit by talking about awful experiences I had on the football field. I don’t even really need to focus on building sexual tension because just by being fun and playful the sexual tension builds more on a non-verbal level.
Physical touch is a great place to start building sexual excitement. I hold eye contact when I am listening to her and the way that I look at her lips while I am listening to her. I am being quite sexual and direct with my physical touch and my non-verbal body language, and at the same time being indiscreet with my fun and playful verbal communication. I think that is a great balance for guys to develop.
Dating doesn’t have to be boring, and if it is, you are probably on the wrong date anyway. There must be a mutual attraction between the two of you, and remember to keep it light and playful in the beginning. Flirting is fun, and women love it. Dating is fun, and should never be routine. Be random at times, and routine will go by the wayside.