Are you constantly feeling a push and pull with your girl?
If so, your game might still be stuck in high school…
If you constantly put down your girlfriend or girls you meet, even in a “light-hearted way” it probably is. In order to have a mature and fulfilling relationship, you need to move past the high school tactics and stop playing the push vs pull games.
A lot of people are already talking about the head games that people play.
What are common mental games that are played between the sexes? What are some of the ways to be able to read this and to know what they mean? How can you end these games?
If a girl gets to that point where she is starting to get a bit gamey, guys have to recognize what they enjoy.
In my youth I was far more open to having sort of a playful, flirty type of interaction, where we tease each other; we tell the other person that we are not interested in them. We sort of basically work on the philosophy of push and pull. Where you push a girl away and then you might pull her in, then you might push her away and then you might pull her in.
Why push and pull, when you can work together?
That constant push and pull action creates attraction.
Essentially through that process you are building sexual tension. In my old days I was quite open to it. A lot of the information and teachings within the pickup communities are very heavily based around this idea of confrontational gain. The idea of negs: Basically giving a girl a negative complement, so that you might be able to lower her value, so that you can then raise her value at a later point in time.
The idea is to be cocky and funny to demonstrate to girls that you are an alpha male.
But as I progressed with relationships and progressed with my confidence I didn’t really enjoy dealing with that bullshit any more. One of the issues is when you start playing head games, girls will challenge you and in order to move the interaction forward you have to step up to the challenge and be able to beat it.
Essentially girls do that because they want you to prove your worth.
They want you to prove that you are going to be persistent and that you are going to chase after them. Essentially what they want you to be able to show that you can win the girl over. It just got to a point for me where that became really tiring. It became really demotivating and I just felt like even with the sexual tension high, I really didn’t want to see the girl anymore.
For me, I don’t really believe in going out just to pick up women for a one night stand.
If I’m going to go home with a girl the same night that I meet her, usually it is going to be because she is someone I value as a person and because she is someone that I can see staying in my life on an ongoing basis. I started getting better at not buying into the game right from the start and I started doing that by being more honest, more open, and more genuine.
I started to focus on mutual seduction.
A lot of the dating world is based around information whereby the man tries to win over the girl. After he’s wined and dined her and has won her over enough, she might then reward him with sex.
It’s a horrible circle, especially when we recognize that women love sex more or certainly enjoy it as much as men, if not more than that. I started to shift my focus on recognizing that we both want to get to this point. We are both on the same team (this works especially well to turn on Gemini women). Let’s work together and mutually seduce each other and we’ll progressively help each other find this point. When I tried this, I found out that the sexual tension was still there, but I had more respect and more in common with the girl. I also had the intention of wanting to see her again.
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