You’ve been with your girl for awhile and are wondering how can you reignite the passion. The sex just isn’t what it used to be… so, what do you do?
What sort of ideas do you have for couples who have lost their passion in their relationship or marriage?
I think that when couples lose interest in sex, they need to go back to the basic building blocks of their relationship, and so usually when we focus on keeping your sex life interesting, there are a few areas that are really important.
Do you have any questions about igniting the passion in your relationship? Leave a comment at the bottom and I answer each one personally.
Getting your passion back starts by remembering what you used to do to keep things interesting
I think the first area is variety, being able to mix up the sexual experiences. So let’s talk about how couples can maybe incorporate a little bit of variety.
I think changing up when sex happens is the first step to reigniting your passion.
From the male’s perspective maybe taking his wife by surprise when they’re holding a dinner party, or mixing up the time of when he looks to escalate, maybe when he’s just come home straight from work. Perhaps look to build some sexual tension throughout the day, like when you’re out shopping together. Just being a little bit smarter in the way that he varies his approach because if couples fall into the same process, such as making love every Wednesday at 9:00pm, just before they go to bed, then there’s no doubt in my mind that they’re going to lose more than just a little bit of interest in each other.
The second aspect of getting your passion back is focusing on where you’re having sex.
Perhaps try mixing it up by renting a room at a hotel, or going on a holiday, or doing it in places around the house that are different from the bedroom, so that’s important too.
Probably the third component of variety is how you’re doing it.
Try different positions and different approaches. Maybe spend more time with foreplay, or even more interesting: make a commitment to withholding from sex, and focusing only on foreplay and building sexual tension there.
The fourth thing that I think is important is intimacy.
Usually, when sex just becomes about the act of having sex, it becomes more like using a partner for the purpose of masturbation, and that happens for both the man and the woman. You have to really pay attention here, because as soon as that happens, and as soon as that disconnect occurs, the act of having sex begins to lose its value and lose its interest. So you might ask yourself, how do I build more intimacy?
I think the starting point here is to just make more eye contact.
Studies have shown that if two people gaze long enough into each other’s eyes, something really deep happens on a spiritual level, a sort of shift, and they feel a greater connection. Therefore consider just giving each other the time to spend perhaps two or three minutes looking into each other’s eyes, and beginning to feel that connection again. If you follow those tips, I guarantee you that you will definitely see an improvement in your sex life.
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