So you cheated on your girlfriend…
Here is relationship advice to make it better or maybe you shouldn’t.
Here are the basics…
Cheating will devaste her... but you might be able to build it back up
Why did you cheat?
Usually, if a guy has cheated on his girlfriend, the first thing he’s got to ask is why did he cheat. What’s missing from the relationship that he thought he might be able to gain somewhere else? Another way of looking at it is: what did cheating provide him with that maybe he could look to add to his existing relationship? Being clear on why he’s cheated is important, because usually if a guy has cheated it’s an indication that maybe something is wrong with the relationship, or maybe something is wrong with the model of the relationship.
Create a new relationship model.
So for instance, if he still has incredibly strong feelings for his girlfriend, maybe it’s the model of the relationship that needs to be re-looked at. Maybe an exclusive relationship isn’t the right thing for him at this moment in time.
Talk to her.
The second component of this is what level of communication do you have with the girl about what you did. How do you explain it and express it? For me, I always feel like honesty is the best approach because in situations where I’ve not been honest or upfront about whether I’ve cheated, or whether there’s something else that is going on in my head, inevitably it comes back to bite me in the ass. What I find with women is that they are far more open to the idea of being cheated on when there’s just a sexual flavour involved in it. They’re far more hurt and the experience is far more damaging to them when they feel like there’s an emotional connection.
Tell her the truth.
I know that with one of the girlfriends I had, she was actually hurt not by the fact that I cheated, but by the fact that I didn’t feel comfortable being able to tell her that I cheated. What that told her was that it must have meant something, that the experience must have meant something to me if I had withheld it from her.
I really encourage guys to be open about it, to acknowledge that they’ve fucked up and to put that on the line, and if that means the relationship is going to be damaged, or that it means the relationship is going to end, then we just have to deal with that. We’re the person that fucked up, and we have to carry the consequences of our actions. In terms of moving forward once a relationship has been damaged, it’s critically important that you have to acknowledge that you’re starting from the ground up.
Build the trust back.
You’re building this relationship and trust from the ground up again. You have to work on regaining a girls trust, and it’s quite possible that the relationship will never be exactly the same again, but you have to acknowledge that and continue to move forward, and recognize that whilst it may not be the same again, you’ve still got the opportunity to shape it in a positive direction; and that goes for both partners.
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