Even if you’re overwhelmed, there’s still hope if you make some internal changes…
Being overwhelmed is a sign for you to make some changes.
Here are some basics.
Mistakes are okay.
The first step is to give himself permission to make mistakes along the way. He’s got to start looking at this as being a lifetime journey. I think too many guys, when they hear that there’s a possibility that they change this part of their life, focus on it being something that they want to fix within a week, or two, or three. You can make changes in that period of time, but you have to give yourself permission to go slowly. It’s all about building a positive foundation so that you can take it to a whole new level later on down the road.
It varies for everyone. One of the things that I think is incredibly important for having success with women is confidence. Sometimes that confidence comes in the form of a placebo. I know when I first started reading about pickup again and getting involved in the community, I got this overwhelming sense of confidence knowing that there was a chance that I could have success with women. That automatically got me to walk up to girls with a little bit of a swagger – to feel more confident with my chances of being successful. And I think that was something that I’d never done before.
Just by getting me out of my comfort zone and getting me to do that, girls started to respond pretty warmly. Don’t be surprised if you have a lot of success within the first week, the first month, or even in the first three months. At the same time, be open to reaching a point where you feel like you’ve hit a plateau, and you feel like you’re not moving forward anymore. That’s not necessarily a bad thing though, as it’s usually just the catalyst for the next level of your progression.
Do you know where your overwhelming feelings come from?
A big one is putting pressure on himself to be someone, or to force something to happen. Usually this happens when you’re going out with other guys and you see them have success while you’re not having any. It could also be the result of hearing other people’s success stories.
Maybe you can’t understand why things aren’t working for you, but they are for the other guys. I know that this was a big source of frustration for me. I would go out and I would pickup four weekends in a row; and then I would go on another four weekends and not have any success at all. Being patient and looking at it from a bigger picture is definitely going to help.
Just have fun.
The other factor that causes guys a lot of frustration is when they focus too much on the pickup side of things and they forget to go out and just have fun. This whole process ought to be fun. If you feel like you’re just counting the hours on a clock every day, and you feel like you’re going to work, then you’re not doing it right.
Keep in mind that the whole thing should be enjoyable, and it requires a long term focus. It’s something that if you build the right foundation, not only will you have success with this part of your life, but it will actually lead to greater success in other parts of your life as well.
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