One of the most common problems that we see by the letters we receive have to do with relationship issues.
When you are in the middle of a relationship, there are some common problems that you should be aware of in order to avoid any potential relationship troubles that may arise.
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You cannot change anyone but yourself.
Ninety percent of relationship issues stem from the fact that most men and women want to force their partner to be a particular way. This happens mostly in the younger generation, but we see in in the older as well. This is a potential killer, because you can’t go into a relationship expecting to change that person. Expectations is the number one destroyer of relationships.
How to have great relationship? Let go of the feeling that you have to have control over your partner, you’ll find that you become a lot more flexible with your relationship, and your relationship will actually blossom and go to a new level.
The key to being successful in this regard is looking at a relationship as a journey, almost like an exploration. If you imagine that you’re in the deepest, darkest forest of Africa and you are walking around and experiencing the culture and the environmental stimulus that exists around you, it’s like uncovering some hidden gem.
That’s the same philosophy you should take to a relationship. Take the time to explore and learn about all the hidden recesses that encompass a person and who they are. When you feel like you have to force your partner to be a certain way, it starts your relationship off on the wrong foot. You want to make her feel special just the way she is.
It also makes the other person feeling like they have to walk on eggshells, which is very unpleasant for them. A much better approach is to treat a relationship as an opportunity to uncover something beautiful. Never ever try to force an issue, because you most likely will force yourself right out of the relationship. Relationship insecurity issues will destroy you and your girl, so avoid at all cost.
ALWAYS keep the lines of communication open.
Communication issues in a relationship are a biggy. If you think there is a problem, nip it in the bud and discuss it right away. Many times we perceive a problem that isn’t really a problem, and it festers until it becomes one big sore. The old adage never go to bed in anger is true.
Lack of communication will lead to problems that you can’t even imagine. You’ll start thinking that something is going on when the only place it’s going on is in your mind. You’ll start imagining things that aren’t there, or make something that is small into something this is bigger than it needs to be. When you notice something wrong, the best thing to do is get it out in the open right away. Avoiding it will make it worse. Discuss, discuss, discuss. I can’t say that enough.
A relationship should be seen as a journey, not a destination.
The second biggest problem is that most guys feel like they have to force the destination. They feel like they have to force the girl to be the right fit for an exclusive relationship, or they feel like they have to force the girl to be the right fit for a casual relationship. It’s almost like the proverbial trying to fit a round peg into a square hole.
If you can just focus on enjoying the opportunity to spend time with your girl, putting your focus on becoming closer to her or more connected, relationship problems will decrease 10 fold. After you have established that connection, then you can decide whether you want to continue to see her tomorrow, and even the day after that.
Let the relationship develop at its own pace and you won’t need relationship help. That’s really the key to leading a free flowing, low maintenance, and yet highly exciting and highly evolved relationship. Relationship issues can be avoided if you let it flow in the direction it’s supposed to flow.
Working on your relationship doesn’t need to be a challenge. Go with the flow and always know what to say to your girl. If you’ve been wondering how to always say the right things to women, watch my FREE video to learn the little known secrets of the female mind. Don’t wait though, this content won’t be up for long…