Scared or nervous thinking about sex with her for the first time?
Or maybe you are just excited and want to learn some sex tips? Well, remember that everyone has to start somewhere, so I thought I’d share my own sex experiences, and how scared and nervous I was at first.
Read on for my story and how you (and her) can enjoy yourself…
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I wish I could tell you that there was a reliable replacement for experience – but there really isn’t. Many guys out there want a guide to sex, a sort of step by step plan that’ll make them seem like a pro in bed, even though they’re really not that experienced. I’m not going to lie to you – there’s no better way to learn than through practice, so what I want to focus on is how you can get laid more often.
How prepared are you for the possibility of sex happening in the first place?
Sex can seem like a huge mountain to climb, and for someone inexperienced there can be many mental obstacles that get in the way, which cause us to sabotage ourselves and our chances of having sex in the first place. It took me a little while to realize that all those nights I went out with the intention of getting laid, I was already doubting the possibility of it happening even before I left my house. I had no condoms in my wallet, and no game plan to go with. The truth was that being in a sexual situation with a girl felt worse than actually worrying about whether I could get a girl to have sex with me in the first place!
There was a time in my life where having sex not only felt like a huge obstacle to overcome, it also felt impossible – like it was never going to happen. The reality was that while there were plenty of opportunities for it to happen, I just wasn’t noticing them, much less acting on them. More than that, I was so preoccupied with my worries, I wasn’t even paying attention to girls who seemed attracted and maybe were even willing.
Why was this? I simply wasn’t comfortable being in that kind of situation with a girl. What it actually came down to was how I wanted to be perceived. I was worried that I’d be judged for not being able to put a condom on properly, and the whole experience would be embarrassing and humiliating. I was very intimidated by the thought that being a virgin would be very obvious to everyone.
Wrap it up?
One of my main concerns was that I had no idea how to put a condom on. I thought that if I somehow showed my inexperience, it would signal to the girl my lack of knowledge about the whole sex act, and she would look down on me. In my silly fantasies, I even thought that she would laugh at me!
For a long time it was this small aspect that consumed my thoughts and was stopping me from having sex to begin with. But what I realized was that I could practice putting on a condom on my own, and since practice makes perfect, this greatly added to my confidence level. I practiced putting on a condom until I could do it with my eyes closed.
The final step – Realizing that sex isn’t that big of a deal!
Because of that one small change, I’ve now been able to see sex for what it is. It’s just another aspect of life that we all participate in, and when you’re attempting anything for the first time, practice increases your comfort level. As with anything new you’re attempting to learn, I suggest you analyze what it is that’s causing you fear and concern, and then focus on eliminating that obstacle.
I also want to point out that when you have sex with a girl the first time, it isn’t necessarily going to be a time when you’ll be at your best. Rest assured that there is a good chance that your first time is going to be clumsy, but that’s to be said with just about anything new that you try, and I promise you this is the case with all other guys (and girls) too!
Just go out there and do it!
In the end, nobody starts having sex like a pro from their first time, and the longer your procrastinate, trying to figure out how to have sex and worrying that you won’t be perfect your first time, the longer you delay one of the most enjoyable activities known to men (and women!).
Get out there, find a willing participant, and just experience it. Sex is mostly instinctual, so communicate with your girl and find out what feels good for her. Afterward, you’ll go home and have a good laugh at yourself, because you’ll realize that sex really isn’t such a big deal.
So now that you’ve hopefully realized your primary aim should be to go and find a girl with who to have sex, check out our Pandora’s Box for foolproof ways to get girls into bed.