Have you ever been in a situation where you know that she likes you, and you probably like her, but she just doesn’t know how to interact or move forward with you?
I think it’s important for guys to realize that, ultimately, it’s up to them to make a play at the girl. They are responsible for leading the interaction. In most cases, the only real signs that girls will give you that she’s interested in you, say in a bar environment, is she will make eye contact for a fleeting second. This is her way of telling you that she is interested, but from here she needs you to be the man and approach her.
So the guy spots this indicator of interest and he approaches her. They start talking. It’s going alright. She likes him so she decides to give him another cue. But once again don’t be surprised if it’s not overly obvious. Maybe it will be something like giggling at his jokes or giving him a light touch on the arm.
Guys need to recognize that whilst in their heads this is very minor, in the head of a female it’s a huge indicator that she’s interested. She just doesn’t get it that a guy doesn’t understand it. Unfortunately if you are one of those guys, what’s going to happen is you’ll find the girl will lose interest very quickly.
Either she’ll think you’re not interested, or she’ll think that you’re a pussy. Neither of these are good situations for us. It’s just too easy for her to turn her attention somewhere else.
So from the perspective of recognizing that guys are so bad at reading signs of interest from women that I suggest that they spend their time concentrating primarily on this last and most important indicator: is she still there in conversation with you? If the answer is yes, you can assume she’s at least interested on some level. In most modern social settings it’s just way too easy for a girl to fob you off, by continuously glancing at her phone for example.
Why do girls feel the need to be so subtle with their signals?
There are two main reasons. The first is that they still see it as the man’s domain. They are still attracted to signs of dominance, of a man going after what he wants, of being sexually attracted to a girl and feeling compelled to act, of taking the lead in the early stages of the relationship.
The other reason is because they don’t want to be seen as being too forward. A girl is supposed to be seen as being something to win over. Not something to be given. If a girl is too forward she is seen as being promiscuous, or easy. A girl’s reputation is a very precious thing to her, perhaps the most precious. So in order to keep hers intact you need to be the man and step up. You need to be able to read the cues and act upon them.