Are you a guy who’s socially awkward? Do you often feel as though you’re a fish out of water in social situations? Read on and find out how we can help you!
Look, I get it – you spend more time with computers and books than with people, and large groups scare the crap out of you. I was there myself!
But that’s absolutely no reason to abandon social interactions. Almost everyone feels some kind of social phobia at one point or another, but social skills are just that – skills. They can be trained, improved, and strengthened; much like a muscle.
And I want you to understand another thing – social awkwardness can have many positives too – difficult as that may be to believe.
First of all, socially awkward guys are often very unique and have interesting hobbies and personalities. This is a huge advantage, so if guys with social anxiety can overcome their shyness, they will be much better placed when interacting with girls than some of the other guys who have little depth. This is one of your main strengths!
It’s all in the tension…
Secondly, socially awkward people build a certain amount of tension throughout their conversation with someone else, and this can really play to your advantage if you know how to turn it around into a positive.
Picture this scenario: you were talking about something, but the conversation fizzled out. Now – there’s just an uncomfortable silence. But if you can sit there calmly, hold your eye contact, and remain relaxed, you’re going to come off as particularly attractive since you can basically deal with pressure and stress.
But something else will happen too – you will visibly notice that tension building up in the girl, and she’s going to feel compelled to herself feel the vacuum created by the silence. Why is this a good thing?
Simple: when we’re discussing any sort of conversation or interaction, it is very important to get the other person to heavily invest in the interaction. That means offering some information about themselves, or maybe taking some initiative in the conversation. So not only will she be investing in your interaction by filling in the awkward silence, but nervous tension can sometimes be converted and redirected into sexual tension too.
In fact, we have plenty of articles dedicated to sexual tension and how you can use it to your advantage.
Deep down, shy guys are often more interesting people
And the third reason – which really is tied in to the first, is that a socially awkward guy needs to basically tweak some of his behaviors, adjust the way he uses his body language, learn a few stories, and study how to escalate, but after that – BOOM – Success!
A socially awkward guy basically has to get rid of his awkwardness and then he’s golden.
A lot of other guys are quite comfortable being in social situations, but aren’t particularly interesting to talk to. It’s actually a lot harder to get a guy like that to be successful with women, because even though he can have some initial success, because he’s not a very deep person, he’s going to fizzle out quite quickly and become boring to the girl.
Escalation is actually one of the more difficult steps to learn. It’s not that hard, with a little practice, to approach girls and introduce yourself, but if all you do is talk – she’s just going to think you’re a potential friend! If you want her to view you as a viable sexual partner, you’re going to have to escalate to touching, kissing, and making out quite quickly.
So if you’re too much of a nice guy, or you’re very shy, or anxious in social situations, I seriously recommend a guide called Dominant Sexual Power, or DSP.