How important is being part of a specific “social group”? Meaning, does your clique really matter?
Social circles should be a part of your life for a number of reasons. You can never have too many friends. Belonging to different social groups allows you to be invited to more parties, go out with a group of people, and meet different types of people.
Social groups are also a great way to meet girls, because rather than cold approaching, you are able to get introduced personally, which is a lot easier than just going up to a stranger and trying to initiate a conversation.
So, how do you expand your social circles? I have a few tips for you to follow that will help you in your quest in how to meet more people and make new friends.
Tip #1: Learn to be the initiator.
People generally are lazy in nature. In this day and age, it’s harder to keep in touch with friends the busier our lives become. You must learn to be the guy that makes an effort to stay in touch with people and plan events and parties. Invite your co-workers, and have them invite their friends as well. Use what friends you have, and get them to invite their friends. Get your party on!
Tip #2: Always give more than you take.
If you are in a social situation, you want to add as much value to that group as possible. Whether it is providing the music to functions, being the cool guy to hang with, or facilitating events at your place, find a way to add value to that group.
People do not want value takers; they want value makers. People do not like to hang around value takers. Value takers eventually suck the life out of people. Don’t be that guy. Think about what you can contribute to any social situation.
Tip #3: When building social circles, don’t just focus on specific groups.
Don’t just build your group around hot chicks or cool guys. I cannot even count the number of times I have been hooked up just by befriending people I thought were nerds or not really cool at all. You never know who that person knows and the type of friends that person hangs around. So, just be open more to all different types of people.
Building a social circle is not as time consuming as you may think. It is like the snowball effect, it builds a lot of momentum. You make one friend, and then he or she may introduce you to two or more who quickly become your friends. Before you know it, you are making new friends in ways that you would have never met otherwise.
Tip #4: Use social media forums.
The social circle game is much easier these days with the invention of social media. With online social groups, once you chat with strangers and befriend someone, like on Facebook, they generally do massive group invitations for people to go to a certain event or party. It sure is a lot easier to stay in touch with people and broaden your group of friends considerably using the social forums that are available online.
Be that guy that people love to hang around. Make people feel comfortable around you and add value wherever you go, and to the lives of the people you come into contact with. Being part of a social group adds life to your life, and that is very important to all of us. Friends help make life worth living!