Socially inept people who want to shake that sort of stigma off and become more adept at meeting people really need to read this article and apply the lessons they will learn here to their lives.
Over the years, I’ve worked with some of the most socially inept people that you could possibly imagine. The interesting thing is that every single one of them was able to make a change in that part of their lives with my help.
We can help you shake your thinking that,” I’m socially inept.” No matter how bad you think you have it; no matter how clumsy you think you are; no matter how socially awkward you think you are, no matter how unattractive you are. There is hope and there is help for you if you apply what you learn to your life.
The key to success is to figure out some realistic goals that will assist you in getting pass social ineptness. You need to look at where you are and set realistic goals to where you want to go.
So, if you’re 40, over-weight, and still living at home with your parents and recently unemployed, it’s probably an unrealistic expectation to think that you’re going to be dating super models within three months. However, it’s a fairly reasonable expectation that you can build more of a social circle by getting out and having a more active lifestyle and by doing more exciting things.
Use small building blocks, so that the foundation will be stronger later. Start by becoming more physically attractive by paying attention to the clothes that you wear and the things that they say about you. And start going to the gym. Not only will you be healthier, but you will feel better too. Exercising releases endorphins in the brain that gives us a sort of natural high. Physical attractiveness is part of how to be social. We move toward those we are think are attractive and want to be near. Draw women toward you with your appearance and keep them with you with your personality.
Certainly, it’s highly likely that you can build more happiness into your life. When you do that then you can actually start to make the shift by going out and approaching more women. Go put yourself in scenes where the possibility of being able to date girls is a reality.
Small steps will still get you to your journey. It may be a long trip, but it is worth every step along the way.
Build a foundation of social skills.
The second thing to focus on is it’s important that you build the right foundation. Guys that have a little bit of a social foundation can actually get away with some of the more gimmicky approaches to a pick up. It’s not healthy for them in the long term, but they can have success.
If you’re a cool guy who is probably going to attract a girl anyway and you run one of these clumsy standard pick up routines, you’re probably still going to attract a girl.
But if you’re a guy who’s dealing with social awkwardness, using a weird routine will simply enhance your social ineptness for a girl, and there’s no way girls will respond positively. Focus on building the right foundation right from the start. Recognize that your change is going to be a little bit longer, but in a long run it’s going to be far more successful for you.
Forget the word NO!
Say yes to everything! You will build more social experiences and be able to no longer be the walking socially inept definition. Let some other guy be the picture next to that concept in the dictionary! If meet a girl who maybe isn’t a ten on your radar, go ahead and talk to her so you can just get into the habit of building those experiences.
I find if you can actually still attract girls that maybe are a little bit below your standards of attraction], the philosophies and principles are exactly the same as you start to move toward more and more attractive girls. You are a social inept. That is why you are reading this. Maybe she is too! You can build your self- esteem as you help her build hers.
So if you haven’t had any experience in your life, there is no one to blame but yourself. Get off that couch, off that computer and go meet people so you can stop being a socially inept person. Once you get to the point where you’re having some successes, you will wonder why you thought it was so hard and once you’re doing that you can then focus on improving the quality.