Nervous? She’ll know–and if you think you hate being uncomfortable…
Just wait until you see her reaction.
Read on to learn how to talk to women… without being uncomfortable.
Make her comfortable.
Building comfort with a girl is a critical step and sometimes overlooked. No matter how attracted the girl is to you, if she does not feel comfortable around you… you’re doomed. Building comfort is also a way of building attraction with a girl. Specific topics or words or phrases are probably not as powerful as being real in a conversation with a girl. Girls are very socially tuned. And if you are lying about something, then they are probably going to pick it up.
Initially,the most important thing with building comfort is being completely honest and real and saying things for what they are. A lot of guys can have the wrong attitude here and think that they have to lie and manipulate a girl to bringing her home and have sex with her. Girls are really savvy at picking this stuff up. Personally, if I find a girl really attractive, I will let her know. If I would to take things further with the girl, I will let her know. This is a great way of building trust and building attraction.
Stop caring about the outcome.
Another powerful way of building comfort with a girl is to have no desired outcome. To have no strings attached. So, it is no big deal if you cannot take her home that night, or if she is with a group of friends and she cannot leave them, it should not be a big deal. Small things like this can also help building up attraction.
Talk to the group.
Now, the key thing in building comfort is making sure that you are addressing or talking to the whole group that the girl is with. I mean, it is very rare that you meet a girl by herself. A good way of building comfort with the friends is to make sure you are conversing with them all and have some genuine interest with her friends. Remember, her friends are a part of her life. In a way, they represent a small part of her. So, if her friends get along with you, chances are she will get along with you more.
Now, the key way to build more comfort is to share things with the girl. I think a lot of guys struggle when they first meet a girl when they are conversing. They just ask lot of questions and try to find out more about the girl. If you are asking too many questions about the girl, it will make her feel uneasy and build pressure on her. Make sure it is a two way street.
Do not just interview a girl. There are some powerful phrases that you can use that will help illustrate the situation better. If I am talking to a girl, I always ask her, “Who you are with here tonight?” And she might talk about her friends a bit and I will show interest. “So how do you guys know each other?” Chances are, she will tell me a bit and she will also ask me the same questions, and you will give answers as well. This can slowly start building comfort.
Another way of building comfort pretty strongly with her friends that I like to do personally is to let the girls know that I am interested in this particular girl. Maybe ask for permission to spend time talking with her. It is a really nice subtle way to additionally build comfort with a group of girls.
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