Teenagers need their own set of advice when it comes to dating. Since they are fresh on the dating scene, they often don’t have a clue as to where to begin.
A lot of people have trouble with dating, but teenagers especially are in desperate need of advice. They don’t have experience with meeting girls, let alone asking one out on a date. Just the thought of asking a girl out makes them tongue-tied. They talk amongst themselves, which can even be comical in itself, because they are all seeking dating advice from teens as inexperienced as themselves.
Teenagers need all kinds of dating tips, like where to go, what to do, and even what to say. They wonder how to get themselves ready, how to dress, cool places to go, and how to talk to a girl successfully. So, trying to remember back to when I was a teenager, here are some tips I that helped me in my beginner dating experience.
Tip #1: Try not to over-complicate things.
Pretend like you are at the deep end of the pool and just jump in. Get out there and approach girls. Give yourself permission within your first month of approaching those pretty girls to make mistakes and don’t aim for perfection. That is usually what stops guys from actually getting out there and meeting girls in the first place. The approaching hangs them up.
They feel like they need to be perfect. They will sit there, they’ll see a girl that they want to approach, and they’ll try to come up with the perfect opener. What you’ll realize as you start to develop a little bit more experience with this stuff is that there is no such thing as a perfect opener, and thinking that there is will only hold you back.
You have to test the waters, and see what actually works for you. The only way to do that is to get out there and try something, anything actually. What works for one guy might not work for you. Everyone has their own personality, their own presence, and their own inner workings. Tips are only that, tips. They are not the know all and be all of life. If it doesn’t work, discard it. If it does, keep it and add to it.
Tip #2: Logic is great, practice makes perfect.
Focus on having a good balance between theoretical study and getting out in the real world and put what you learn to use. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with guys coming to the Vin DiCarlo blog, looking at some of the great articles here, and maybe picking one or two things that they want to take from the website and implement into the field. But there has to be a balance. Take a look at Vin DiCarlo’s Attraction Code. This is an especially good place to start when seeking beginner dating advice.
A lot of guys, unfortunately, get the balance wrong because they feel like they want to fully understand everything before they actually get out and start meeting girls. The balance should be that for every hour that they spend studying something on a theoretical level, they should be spending at least two to three hours in-field putting those skills into practice.
Tip #3: Keep a journal to keep your thoughts in check.
Start a journal. Journal your results. Write down feelings that you’re experiencing, write down the interactions that you had and how the girl responded, and write down what worked well for you and also what bombed. Starting a journal and writing your notes down will actually get your thoughts out of your head and onto paper. This will create space for new thoughts to come through.
You’ll also start noticing that there are certain trends that keep popping up. You’ll notice when you go up and approach a girl by being direct and get a positive response, or when you go up and approach a girl indirectly and get a negative response; or vice versa. But you will start recognizing what works for you, and what doesn’t.
Tip #4: Invest in coaching from someone other than your peers.
Once you feel like you’ve gotten a little bit of momentum up, invest in some coaching. I’ve worked with students who have improved over the course of maybe two to three weeks at the same rate that I see other guys improve over two to three years. For what is actually a fairly small financial investment they are completely fast-tracking this part of their lives. It’s kinda like being tutored in a subject that you’re not doing well in. Seek someone who can tutor you. If you can’t afford it financially, find a mentor.
Seek an older guy who has success in dating and far more experience, who has been where you are now. Older guys more than likely be willing to give you some pointers and great ideas that you probably have not even thought of. They’ll even point you in the right direction in how to go about doing what worked for them. Older guys are much wiser at giving out teenage dating advice, much better than a fellow teenager. Good luck, one day you will look back and wonder what you were so worried about.