The Dating Game: A Guide on How to Be More Appealing Without Being Fake

Be more appealing and start getting the girl!

How would you like to be so attractive on a first date that no girl can resist you?

The best bit is these technique just involve being yourself.

First of all, you don’t want to be wearing a mask. What I mean by wearing a mask is that you don’t want to be taking on a character or a personality that’s not you. It’s very important that when you’re seeing a girl you allow yourself to be more vulnerable and open, and show your true colors to that person.

If you feel that perhaps women won’t like you for the person you are, then you need to consider looking at yourself a little more harshly, and really ask yourself some hard questions. The purpose is to improve yourself. Look in the mirror and honestly ask yourself, “If I was a girl, would I want to hook up with me?” If your answer is a no or a maybe, or anything besides a definite “Yes!”, then it’s time to make changes and start becoming a more attractive guy.

That’s not to say that you should fall into the identity trap of pretending like you’re a jock when you’re actually a geek; but consider how you can improve yourself while staying true to your nature. Could you change your clothes? Is your body language coming across as that of a relaxed man, or someone who feels like a fish out of water?

By starting on this journey of self-improvement, you assure that when you go out there and present yourself to women, you will feel more confident because you know that you’re becoming the person that you really want to become. A lot of guys may mistakenly feel like we have to be almost arrogantly confident. That perhaps we need to emulate someone like James Bond when we meet women.

I don’t think women necessarily want that. Women actually don’t mind a guy who’s a bit vulnerable and nervous. We’re only human, so it’s entirely okay to be like that, and to show and express your true self to them, as long as it’s a self that you’re comfortable with being.

Many guys might look in the mirror and dismiss themselves as completely unappealing. If you don’t know what’s appealing about yourself, you need to find out.

First of all, take a piece of paper and split it up into two columns. Think about the good points that you bring to the world in the left column, and think about the things that you’re not so happy with and that need improvement in the right.

If you’re having difficulty coming up with a good list, try to gain an outside perspective. Ask your friends or perhaps your family. Although family aren’t always a good idea, because they probably wouldn’t give you the most accurate description, as they’ll always tell you they love you, etc. But ask your friends, “What are the good and bad points about me? What would you improve and what do you already like?”

Getting an honest opinion of yourself every now and then really pays off. You can get a better idea of where you are as a person, and where you’re going in life. You’ll probably notice two things: first, there are more good points about you than you thought. People can often get depressed and forget to look at the good side of the picture. It’s very important to use your past successes, even if you don’t consider them as very important, as a solid foundation for your future.

At the same time, many of the less positive things about you that need improvement might also surprise you. You might for example think that the way you dress is really cool – but if you ask around, it turns out your friends may disagree; they just didn’t want to tell you. It’s important to gain a more objective awareness of this.

Once you obtain a map of where you are, you can start working away at turning your weaknesses into strengths. I guarantee that as you consistently chip away at your imperfections, you will become more confident with yourself, and more happy and attractive too.