Is foreplay a good way to build tension? Can you go too far with foreplay and make the sex TOO volatile or just fizzle out?
Stop and pay attention because tension is very powerful– Especially when it comes to foreplay
I like to think of foreplay as something it does not necessarily have to be closed off in a bedroom or in isolation.
Foreplay can just be conversation about sex.
Everything before sexual intercourse is foreplay.
Things like just talking to her, looking at her, getting to know her, and touching her. Everything that is happening before getting naked together or getting in bed together will make the sex so much better.
It is all foreplay.
The more tension I can build, the more tension there will need to be released. It is a good idea to really see tension building and use foreplay as an art form that you really want to master and practice and get good at doing. Some things that you can do are working on your dirty talk, suggestiveness, and working on your working on your eye contact, or working on your touch.
Work on actions like touching her in ways, which build that tension. And how can you even withhold touch in ways that will make her yearn for your touch. Think of ways that will turn you on too, so that the foreplay is fun for both of you.
I could be talking about the weather, but my intention is definitely to bring up some sexual thoughts. It is not really what I am talking about that will act as foreplay, but how I talk about it and how I use my body language to transmit that sexual energy to her that matters. All of these things help build up that desire for you and for her in ways you never imagined.
Do you get better at it by doing it or do you think you can do it alone, like with a mirror or something?
Doing it is going to be the best way you improve.
The mirror is more so for you to give yourself feedback, if you are just beginning to work on your art. If you are already using it and it is working you can always improve. Maybe looking in a mirror you can see what she sees when she is looking into your eyes. This might help you practice transmitting your thoughts to her better.
But, I recommend that guys just go out and do it.
You will get more feedback so that you can see what works and what can work better with more practice. The feedback you are looking for is not so much the woman telling you with words what is working.
Rather, it is how her body is reacting to you and stuff like that.
When you go out and talk about things other than sex, but have your mindset that you want her to feel your sexual energy, see if she senses what you are thinking about by the way she talks to you and moves. If she is moving toward you and flirting with you in a suggestive way, it is probably working. But, if she is only responding to your words without seeming to get that you are thinking sexually, then you probably need to turn up your energy more as you get more practice talking to women.
In time you will get it and foreplay will get easier.
Or it could become easier now…
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