How to make sure it’s your arms she’s falling into… not his.
It hurts to think about, right?
Well… now is your chance to do something about it.
Women are everywhere.
The first thing that guys need to look at is this… there are so many women in the world. Some guys think that there’s not an abundance of girls out there, right? One of the things you want to develop, as you become better with women, is cultivating an abundance mentality. You must recognize that there are thousands and thousands of beautiful, intelligent women out there – single women – who are open to meeting new guys on a daily basis.
Don’t get hung up on one girl.
When a guy gets hung up on focusing on one particular girl, and particularly if that girl is already has a boyfriend… is he doing himself any favors? You don’t need to stay away from that girl, but usually that’s an indication to me that he has scarcity thinking. Even if he comes up with a bunch of tactics and skills to attract this one particular girl, and he has success with her, all that is going to do is further highlight his scarcity thinking. Somewhere down the tracks, that’s going to catch him out.
Start by meeting more women.
The number one step guys need to get into, when they’re attracted to a girl with a boyfriend, is to focus on going out and meeting more women. You need to know that there is an abundance of single girls out there.
What is unique about you?
The second thing that I would encourage guys to think about is, identify what you bring to the party. If a girl is already in a relationship with a guy, there’s a fair chance that he brings something to the relationship that fulfills a particular need of hers at the moment. Identifying what that is and then identifying what your qualities are, and focusing on those, can help give guys a lot of confidence. If he’s a lousy boyfriend – which is one of the reasons why a lot of guys feel comfortable going after a girl who’s in a relationship – they feel the boyfriend is not doing a good enough job of looking after her: “I can do a much better job.” But if she’s in a relationship, there is some need that her existing boyfriend is fulfilling.
Look at her relationship pattern.
If you actually track relationships that she has been in, there’s an ongoing pattern. There’s something at a core level that’s making her go back to particular guys. You might be the most amazing guy in the world, but if you’re not assisting her in getting closure on that a core issue that’s bringing her back to problem guys, you’re probably not going to be seen in that light.
Have fun with it.
If you insist on going after a girl who has a boyfriend, focus on just being fun and playful. Put yourself in situations where you get to spend more time with her. Essentially, let the relationship develop on a more natural and spontaneous level. One of the things that I find with girls that have boyfriends is, if I can keep the vibe nice and flirty, there will usually be a time where her relationship will becomes a little bit stressed and she’ll start to reconsider whether she wants to be in it.
It may even be a situation where he breaks up with her. If can continue to be in her life, not needy, and provide a fun energy when you’re around her, you’ll be the first guy she turns to. From my own experience, that’s a far more powerful place to be, than actually trying to worm my way into her life and replace her boyfriend. I’d much rather be seen as the next guy on the ladder when things start to become a bit rocky.
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