The rules for dating were made to be broken. Frequently guys pay for everything. Is that a good idea?
If you’re reading this chances are you are wondering how rules have changed–
Modern women don’t necessarily follow the same “old fashion” rules as her grandmother.
Discover how to tell which rules you should still follow, and which rules are made to be broken–
The rules for dating were made to be broken, such as when taking a girl out are you expected to pay for everything? In our modern society, some girls might be against the idea of guys paying the bill. Some girls like to feel as if they are contributing and working towards independence. In fact, ignore some of the rules of dating that you have heard over the years, and be open to testing the waters. You could perhaps ask her if she wants to go dutch (splitting the bill and each paying your own tab).
Hell, you might even luck out and be with a girl who wants to break one of her own dateing rules, who is totally independent and wants to foot the whole bill. An idea you might try is to get the girl to plan the date and take you out. If you can flip the script on her, and change the simple rules of dating, this could do wonders as far as her investment in you is concerned. I can guarantee that if a girl organizes the first date and pays for it too, she will want to see you again. She has already invested so much time and money on you, she’ll want a return on her investment. The tips of dating women in the past might not work so well in the present. You must be open to change in today’s society.
This could be a good strategy for guys. You don’t want to come off as being a cheapskate, but there’s nothing wrong with being a little creative and original. Remember guys, some of the best dating tips can be broken! That can be an interesting tactic, reversing roles like that. As far as physical relationships on a first date, the classic stereotype has been that if we don’t kiss, the girl is a prude; but if we sleep together, she’s a slut. Let’s face it, most of the dating tips men have used in the past have gone by the wayside. It is ultimately your behavior that will influence her decision to have sex on the first date, and not the pressure of society.
Understand that whether she sleeps with you or not depends more on you than on her. There is still an undercurrent of those thoughts running through a girl’s mind. I don’t think she honestly believes that not kissing is prudish behavior, and that sleeping with you makes her a slut. But those thoughts are going to be spinning around in her head due to societal pressures that have been imposed mostly on girls. Girls have been going through this “behind the back” talk since high school. They are the ones who need to realize that the norms in society and rules to dating have changed.
Far more important to her is what she believes the guy’s thinking. Most girls are reluctant to have sex on the first date, only because they think “If I sleep with him too quickly, he won’t see me as a potential long term option”. In order to solve that misunderstanding, I make sure to be clear in letting her know what my beliefs are regarding sex. I’m very comfortable talking about sex, and I think that’s an area guys really need to work on.
Being comfortable bringing out the topic of sex, talking about what preferences we have and what we like, and past sexual history is an important process. You should be able to display your sexuality and your intent which will go a long way in breaking that non-judgmental attitude. It breaks all the rules of dating, and puts you both at ease. It helps in ending all pretense, and lets you move on toward who you really are and what is expected. Freedom in dating is a wonderful thing, and ending expectations will take the process even further.
I’ll often point out some of the imbalances that women have to face in the terms of how society views them when it comes to sex. Woman perceived as sleeping with a lot of guys are seen as promiscuous sluts; but if a man is sleeping with a lot of women, he’s seen as being a stud. There is a complete set of double standards in play here. The interesting thing about this is that it’s not men that are putting this double standard out there, it’s the women. If you express this to women, they’ll usually agree. They’ll say things like “I can’t understand some girls, they’re such bitches. Most girls like sex, right? And most girls want to be able to express themselves on a sexual level, and I’m having a hard time understanding that concept”.
I always make it a point to say that for me “sluts” are simply liberated women who are comfortable with expressing their sexual desire without caring what others think. This should be celebrated, and something that girls ought to be complimented and commended for. If I can express my gratitude to her when she is comfortable talking about sex, then that should release the shackles that she’s been carrying based on preconceived notions that society has fostered upon girls. Then she’ll be able to open up and be more sexual on a date. Abolish those old dating standards! The rules for dating were made to be broken.
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