How to build inner confidence and project it for her to see…
Focus on your life.
Some guys go out every day and try to make an effort to talk to girls, but they just can’t bring themselves to do it. It just seems out of their reach. It’s almost like they think she is out of their league. They question themselves, “What do I really have to offer her? I’ve done nothing with my life.”
This isn’t the only situation where this happens. Some guys feel like their opinion doesn’t matter. They want to get beautiful women, but they just can’t see a way.
Are you really frustrated trying to get women?
What you need to do, at this point in time, is to be compassionate with yourself. Dating advice is not going to be helpful right at this moment, in fact, it will make things worse. Don’t push your comfort zone, because this is going to make you feel worse… not better.
Right at this moment, what you need most is to improve your sense of self-compassion. This means that you must change the way that you think, so that you can feel better. The first way to do this is to be more aware of your self-talk. Start to say things to yourself that make you feel good. For example, you go out at lunchtime to talk to a woman, but freeze up with fear. The normal voice inside your head may want to beat you up and criticize. This will make you feel overwhelmed. You will be too hard on yourself.
Be nice to yourself.
Being too hard on yourself will erode your confidence more than anything else. Improving your self-talk in difficult moments will go a very long way in helping you to improve with women and to get positive results. Positive self talk is the bull’s eye for helping you build more confidence and to improve your results. For example, you can say things such as, “It’s still early in the day and at least I came out and made an effort to meet women. I could just be sitting at home being lazy, but I’m not. I’m doing my best at this point in time”.
Take your own back.
Be your own best friend. Encourage yourself, support yourself, and do your best to make yourself feel good. Make the negative voice inside your mind take a beating. This is important, because you may have been listening to that negative voice for a long time. Listening to it may have become a habit for you. You must break this habit. Change your thought patterns so that you make yourself feel good by saying more positive things to yourself, especially when you feel anxious.
Do you want confidence to meet women? Ask any questions you have in the comments below and I’ll answer each one personally.
How to talk to women… and everything about that…
Once you’ve created a positive self-image you’re ready to approach women. I know you’re still going to be nervous to approach women or carry on a conversation – but if you don’t you won’t get anywhere. It’s O.K. though, many of my clients were terrified of approaching women until I showed them proven, rejection proof techniques that will engage any woman.
I reveal them in this free video: