Have you let the spark go out?
Here are things to say to your girlfriend to build it back up again.
It isn’t as hard as you think.
First of all, it’s a very normal occurrence that as relationships progress, we start to take on a new persona. We’re not the guy that she first met. Perhaps we’re no longer the fun, flirty, and confident guy that she initially fell in love with. Perhaps we became too comfortable and complacent with our lives and we set back into our old ways. Maybe we started to take her for granted.
Think about reconnecting with the person that she fell in love with, the fun guy. Don’t let your ego control you… be willing to reconnect with different aspects of yourself. Try to inject more fun and spontaneity back into the relationship to make it more interesting for her. When was the last time you did something surprising with her? For example, you could give her a call while she’s at work or school and tell her to put some nice clothes on when she gets home. Don’t tell her why though. Then, when you come to pick her up, compliment her, grab her by the hand, take her to the car, etc., but don’t tell her where you’re going. And make sure it’s a really exciting venue too. That kind of anticipation and excitement is fantastic for strengthening relationships.
Girls love compliments.
In terms of what things you could say to reignite that attraction in her and keep things interesting, understand that girls react pretty well to compliments, so compliment her. Explain to her how the way her hair is done, or her clothes, or some other aspect is particularly sexy and attractive. Be honest though, don’t lie about it. Girls really appreciate honest compliments. Also remember that you need to constantly make it known how much you care about her. We sometimes think that she already knows how we feel, but occasionally you want to verbalize that too. Tell her how much you value her and how much she means to you.
Try to make the relationship as spontaneous as possible. I mentioned before how you could surprise her with a fun date, but the same applies to your sex life. If you’ve become particularly set in your ways then sex will become boring. There are three primary areas you want to focus on improving when it comes to sex: where you have it, when you have it, and how you do it. That means that if you usually have sex at night before you go to sleep, consider changing things around and taking her by surprise when she’s doing something around the house. Perhaps read up on some new sex techniques or talk about how you could try out some kinky stuff. Make it as interesting as you can.
Keep talking to her.
The last thing you need to work on is keeping the communication lines as open as possible. Sit down and find out how she’s feeling. Get her to open up to you and tell you why she’s become a little lackluster. Rather than guessing blindly what she might not be liking, it can really help to know what it is that she’s lacking in the relationship.
Communication plays a very big part in a relationship. There might be a lot of things that are building up inside of her that you could be completely unaware of. It’s good to allow her to express her emotions. It might be hard to hear at first, but it makes her feel better because she’s got it out of her system, and then you can begin working on the areas of your relationship that she finds lacking.
Stop and pay close attention because you may be doing something wrong–to drive her away–and not even know it.
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