If you’re in the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship you need to PAY ATTENTION…
Because there are things you need to know about getting to know your girlfriend better–
Before you blow it READ THIS:
Ask about her passions.
This one step that I will tell you about is something that should be incorporated in ninety percent of interactions that you have from this point on. It’s a particular phrase that I use. While I don’t like to focus on routines, I guess that if I had only one routine, or one thing that I would get guys to focus on, this would be it for every time they meet a new girl. The question is: “I’m interested. What are you passionate about? What do you do with yourself when you’re not coming out to Club Zodiac on a Friday night?”
By asking the girl what she’s passionate about, you’re essentially breaking through the noise. You’re blowing straight past that ongoing rattle that happens when we meet someone for the first time and we ask them questions that we don’t really care about. We’re now getting to a point where they actually have to tell us who they are.
Take her there.
What you’ll find when you ask girls that question is that in some cases they’ll respond warmly, and they’ll give you some interesting answers. Other times, they’ll reply with something a little bit lame. They might say, “You know, I’m not really passionate about anything.” All this means is that they’re not yet ready to fully invest in the interaction. If that’s the case then you need to meet them half way. We have a principle that says you go first. If she’s not ready to invest herself in the interaction, you need to go there first.
So I say, “The only reason I ask is because I’m really passionate about coaching. It’s pretty much the most important thing in my life. I love the sensation of being able to work with someone and recognize their potential even if they don’t see it themselves; and then help educate and assist them in getting to that place where they recognize their own potential. There’s no better feeling for me.”
Show your true self.
I find that by revealing a little bit about myself, she then starts to open up too, or she gets really interested in what my passions are. That ability to get past the standard chit chat that usually begins every interaction in every relationship, to bypass that and jump the interaction forward an extra thirty minutes, is going to really set you apart from other guys.
Get into the habit of finding out what their passions are. If you can’t get at their passions, just work on finding out what’s unique about them as a person. If you can identify something that is unique about this girl, bring it to the surface, and compliment her on it – this will automatically greatly increase your value in her eyes.
What she really expects–is for you to read her mind by asking these three (too powerful for a blog post) questions.
Check out what you need to ask her tonight to strengthen her bond, learn to read her mind, and get her into your bed.