Since these traits have the potential to completely eliminate any chance of attraction from girls, it’s important you go through this list of turn-offs for women, and make sure you’re not falling into any of these traps. I hope seeing them written down will help you realize whether you need to make some changes.
#1. Being tight with your money.
If you’re a guy who’s unwilling to spend a little bit of money on her, or you’re always looking for the cheap option, this can be a huge turn-off.
Now, I’m not saying you should constantly spend your hard-earned money just to impress her, and certainly not everyone has the money to spend. And hey, being a careful spender is as much an attractive quality as any other.
But, don’t be stingy when it isn’t necessary. She’s going to be thinking of what the future would be like with you – never being able to spend money on things she likes and not being able to go to fancy, beautiful restaurants because you’re too tight to spend the money.
Don’t be afraid to have a little fun in your life.
#2. Mother issues.
If you have a weird relationship with your mother and you’re acting a bit immature, this can be one of the biggest turn-offs for women. The problem is that she’s going to feel like she’s competing against your mother.
If you’re perhaps a bit of a mama’s boy, she will also feel like you’re not capable of standing on your own two feet without your mother being around. It is very emasculating to be dependent on your mother when you’re an adult. Remember that she wants a man, not a little boy!
#3. Insecurity issues.
Everyone has insecurities, and I’m not asking you to be some kind of robot, but some people’s insecurities are more obvious than others. If you have things holding you back or seriously affecting your life, it’s crucial for your dating success that you make an effort to go out and solve whatever those problems are.
It’s not just about your dating life, either. Insecurities will hold you back in your career, with job interviews, making friends, and pretty much everywhere. If you can’t deal with them yourself using self-help techniques, then get some external help. Perhaps see a physiologist or a counselor.
Don’t let insecurities get in the way of you enjoying the kind of life you deserve.
#4. Neurotic behavior.
Neurotic tendencies can include depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, phobias, and various other personality disorders. If you’re suffering from any of these problems, you need to get help!
You need to go out and get on top of these issues. Perhaps try to find some way to control it, because they are going to affect your ability to connect with women and can drag down your overall quality of life, too.
Thankfully, modern science has a pretty good grip on these issues, and a lot of people out there are more than willing to help you out.
I’m putting this one as separate from the point above to emphasize the importance of this. Guys that are living their lives in fear and delusion are going to be off-putting to almost any woman. You will annoy her, irritate her so much that you will easily scare her away, and she might never want to come back and see you again.
If you suffer from paranoia, the first step is to identify this and become aware of your problem. The second step is to go and get some help and find out where the paranoia is coming from. If you’re a particular fan of conspiracy theories, that’s fine – but you may want to keep them to yourself on your dates.
There’s a saying – the only thing worse than being bored, is being a bore.
Here’s how you can identify whether you’re a boring person or not: Recall three exciting examples of something adventurous you’ve done in the last week. Can’t think of any at all? You’re probably going to bore her.
Luckily, being boring is one of the easiest traits to remedy, and it helps you as much as any potential dates. There are no downsides to leading a more interesting life. None whatsoever.
Make a list of exciting hobbies you want to try out. Leave the house. Start traveling. When you have an entire day free, clear your schedule of any non-vital plans, buy a train ticket to a nearby town, and just walk around. Get yourself some new experiences that you can talk about later.
#7. Trust issues.
If you have been burned a lot in your past relationships, you may have some trust issues with women. And look, I get it – I’ve been there.
But, right now, these trust issues are just an obstacle for you. They can lead to a lot of insecurities, and even make you possessive of the girl. There is only so much a girl can take. Girls need to be free and have freedom in a relationship.
#8. A people pleaser.
Now THIS is a real turn off for women. Someone who constantly finds it necessary to please other people is clearly an insecure person at heart and needs other people’s validation to feel good about themselves, to feel accepted.
Besides, it opens you up to being used and abused by some less than scrupulous people. Ask yourself if you’re being nice to someone because you want to do good by them, or whether you’re just looking for approval.
This isn’t quite like the point about boredom above. You could do all sorts of things with your life, but still be boring to a woman.
But laziness – that’s something else entirely. This is when you sit at home and watch TV or play video games all day. Would you find a sedentary woman who doesn’t do much with her life attractive? I wouldn’t.
So, put yourself up to the same standards. Learn a new language. Learn to play an instrument. Do whatever you want, just do something.
This may very well be the most crucial of the top 10 turn-offs for women.
Girls absolutely love a decisive guy. Being decisive shows masculine traits. If you’re walking into a theater, you want to lead her by the hand to your seats – not meekly stand around twiddling your thumbs.
Being an indecisive guy conveys your lack of confidence – whereas most women want to be swept off their feet. So, stop dilly-dallying, and become a man!